Love University

Have you ever wanted something badly that you knew was no good for you?  Perhaps, you were addicted to a substance, behavior, person, or way of life that was self-defeating or self-destructive. If so, you were probably under the influence of the Compulsion Thought Demon—the damaging irresistible thoughts that compel you to sabotage your life by indulging in unhealthy behaviors and getting involved with toxic people. Fortunately, there is a way to overcome bad habits, addictions, and compulsive behaviors that you can’t control. On our Love University Podcast, we learned powerful ways to vanquish the Compulsion Thought Demon so you can pursue a healthy and satisfying life. Here’s what we discovered: *Give Your Desires an Upward Turn. When you feel overcome by an overwhelming desire for something harmful (e.g. staying in a toxic relationship), you will give your desire an upward turn. In other words, you will transform your unhealthy desire into a healthy and uplifting one. In the relationship example, you wil

Has fear and worry ever got ahold of you and made you suffer? If so, you were under the influence of the Fear Thought Demon. The Fear Thought Demon consists of self-defeating and exaggerated thoughts of fear: “Watch out, you will lose your money, relationships, health, and even your life.”  These attacking thoughts constantly warn you that bad things will happen to you in the future, and you will lose everything you value. The good news is that there is a way to get rid of the Fear Thought Demon once and for all. On our latest Love University podcast, we became acquainted with some powerful ways to vanquish unnecessary and exaggerated thoughts of fear and worry. Here’s what we learned: *Rewire Your Brain From Rabbit to Lion. In nature, the lion is powerful and confident; it sleeps a lot because it has little to fear from other animals. The rabbit, on the other hand, is on every animal’s menu. They are always scurrying around, fearful they will be eaten at a moment’s notice. If you’re like a fearful rabbit, yo

Would you like to find your soul mate for Valentine's Day? Join us for a special live event at Port's Restaurant in Corona Del Mar Feb 10th 7pm. On this special night, you will wear a color mask that represents your unique personality LoveType (romantic style). Then, you will mingle with other eligible singles as you learn the secrets of compatibility and partake in entertainment and delicious Persian food. At the end of the night, the masks come off, and you may find your compatible soul mate just in time for Valentine’s Day.    Get your tickets now while they last at Eventbrite: shorturl.at/dkrsu. See you at the Dating Masquerade!  

Have you ever felt down and out—sad, depressed, and feeling like nothing seems to work? If so, you may have been under the influence of the Futility Thought Demon—the critical thought voice that tells you that you’re a failure and nothing will ever change. Now there’s a way to conquer the Futility Thought Demon and soar on the wings of self-love. Here are the secrets of emotional freedom we learned on the Love University Podcast: *Ask yourself: “was I connected to my joy today?”   Before you go to bed each night, reflect on the things that brought you joy during the day, perhaps, meditating or praying, communicating with loved ones, or enjoying some time outside in nature. Also, take note of the time you wasted on non-productive activities such as partaking in excessive social media or absorbing negative news.  Strive each day to do the things you love, and you will elevate your mind and soul. *Do the difficult things first.  Make sure you handle the most important and emotionally challenging tasks at the beg

Do you feel shame, regret, or guilt for things you did or should have done? If so, you may be under the influence of the Bad Me Thought—the negative and critical inner voice that insists you screwed up, you’re a bad person, and you don’t deserve any better in life. On Love University podcast, we learned ways to eradicate the Bad Me Thought Demon—exaggerated shame and guilt—so you can live confidently and with peace and joy. Here’s what you can do to eliminate the Bad Me Thought Demon: *Take moral inventory of your past actions and learn from them. If you made a mistake, acknowledge and learn from it. Maybe you hurt a loved one or messed up at work in a bad way. Resolve to apply the lessons learned to help you become a stronger and better person. You don’t have to beat yourself over the head constantly for your errors, blunders, and bad habits. You can grow from your experiences and move forward with your life. *Affirm the Gift of Life. Instead of hiding from others and life because of the mistakes you’ve made

There is a negative force that is out to get you. It is called the Thought Demons—the collection of all the negative and critical thoughts you’ve had in your mind since childhood. These include thoughts such as “You’re never make it. You’ll never find love.  You’ll never be financially secure. You’re a loser.”  The good news is that these voices can be defeated and you can live free from their malevolent influence. On Love University, we learned powerful techniques for eradicating the Thought Demons in your mind and finding joy and success. Here are the three steps of Thought Demon eradication: *Identify the Thought Demon.  In a journal, pad, or notebook write down the name of the particular negative or critical thought that is tormenting you the most at the moment. Maybe it’s the “Money Failure Thought Demon”—telling you that “You’re a loser with money. You will never have enough.”  Draw what it looks like, with a certain color that represents its nature. Maybe, you will draw a skinny green goblin that lamen

On our recent Love University episode, we welcomed back (in person and via flashbacks) our beloved former producer, Reggie.  Reggie first came to us as an autistic, college-educated young man who was shy and had terrible luck with women. Now thirty, and never having a relationship with a woman, Reggie received dating advice from our Love University faculty of world-renowned matchmakers and love experts. Over the course of four years with the show, Reggie gained confidence in his dating and relationship skills, and is now on his way to finding the love of his life. In this retrospective, we pay honor to Reggie, and send him loving energy for an amazing future of love and happiness.  Bon Voyage, Reggie, may your love be deep and your happiness everlasting. Sincerely Dr. Alex Avila and the Love University Podcast Team

Would you like to rule your world?  To have such power and mastery over your own mind and life that you can achieve your dreams and help others reach theirs? If the answer is “yes,” then you need to become a Love Warrior—a person who is strong, confident, and fearless, while at the same time.  loving, empathetic, and compassionate.  On Part Two of our Love Warrior (LW) series, we learned  how to develop the amazing LW skill of Intelligent Selflessness—self-confidence and self-love combined with forgetfulness of self and loving and serving others.  Here’s what you need to do to be an unstoppable Love Warrior who has Intelligent Selflessness: *Do small good deeds.  Open the door for someone, help an elderly person cross the street, listen to a hurting friend, help a needy person.  When you do these small selfless acts, you build your internal enthusiasm and confidence for doing more for others as you uplift your own spirit in the process. *Take pleasure in the success of others.  The best way to defeat the clou

In a world of conflict and strife, there is one who stands above. This individual is called the Love Warrior: a person who defuses hostility and brings harmony, peace, and balance into any situation.  On our Love University Podcast, we showed you how to become a Love Warrior in our contentious world—fighting for love, defeating nervousness, and finding victory with peace. On Part One of the Love Warrior Series, you will learn how to develop the powerful Love Warrior trait known as Confident Gentleness—being strong and confident, yet humble and loving. Here’s how you can become Confidently Gentle: *Spend time with gentle creatures.  Watch YouTube videos, or spend time with (perhaps even own) a gentle creature like the Golden Retriever or Llama. As you observe these special gentle animal beings, visualize absorbing their gentle spirit within yourself. *Soften your voice.  Become aware of how your voice changes when you are angry or upset. You may have a higher pitch, speak in an angry growl, or have a fast stac

Would you like to be a full potential person?  A full potential person is someone who maximizes their abilities and achieves their dreams.  Maslow called it being self-actualized, being at the peak of your self-development and fully realizing your potential. You can go as far as you want in life by becoming a Full Potential Person—someone who is authentic, powerful, and loving. Here’s what we learned about becoming a Full Potential Person on our recent Podcast: Follow Your Hara:  In the martial arts, the Hara is the physical point two inches below the navel that is the center of balance, power, and intuition. When you focus on your Hara, you are tapping into your gut instinct, the part of you that knows what is right and true. When you’re faced with a difficult decision, close your eyes, breath deeply, and focus on the point two inches below your navel. Ask the Hara: What should I do?  As your intuition becomes clearer, you will receive the right answer—now follow your gut. Embrace the Unknown:  When your Har

Join Southern California’s most eligible singles on November 9th, 7PM at Curtis Theatre, Brea for the social and romantic networking event of the year. $10.00 includes a glass of wine and the chance to meet your soul mate.       By Dr. Alex Avila Click here for your ticket to the Dating Masquerade: shorturl.at/uzCGZ Click here for the full show: tinyurl.com/mr6h798h  Imagine walking into a room full of fun and classy singles who are wearing color masks based on their Love personality type. You proceed to meet interesting people as you ask four simple “magic” questions scientifically designed to help you find your most compatible match—from the inside out. Once you’ve made the right personality connections, the masks come off as you determine personal chemistry and possibly find your soul mate. Admission to the Dating Masquerade includes a complimentary glass of wine (open bar available) and a mask. On this special night, November 9th 7PM, Dr. Alex Avila, Love Psychologist Extraordinaire, will unveil the secr

There is a science of mind and body that can transform your life. It is called Yoga.  On Love University podcast, we welcomed beloved Yoga teacher, Mandeep (HOME | Kundalini Collective), as she enlightened us on the benefits and joys of yoga practice. Here is what we learned: *Yoga offers many benefits. The practice of yoga improves mood, concentration, and decision-making, as well as the immune system, while reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. It can help in weight loss. It can teach trauma victims how to tolerate discomfort and integrate their past experiences into their mind and body. In addition, practicing yoga in a group setting can increase your sense of community, togetherness, and sharing. *You can reduce your Monkey Mind. In the East, the “Monkey Mind” refers to all of the chattering thoughts you have in your head (“I have to pay bills; I’m late for work”) that prevent you from maintaining peace and relaxation. Fortunately, in yoga, you can practice Mudras (hand/finger movements) that occupy y

Do you really love yourself in an authentic way? Loving yourself authentically means that you have a deep understanding and appreciation of who you really are.  You accept yourself as you are without excessively judging and criticizing yourself.  For many people, authentic self-love is difficult because they judge themselves harshly and push themselves too hard. The solution is to have balanced self-love, in which you love and forgive yourself, while recognizing your areas of needed improvement.  Here’s how to practice self-love in a healthy and powerful way: *Write a self-love letter.  Write a letter from the perspective of your future self. Write as if your future self is asking your present self an important question:  Am I living my most authentic, healthy, and love-filled life right now? Perhaps, you’re not living healthily right now—eating the wrong foods, indulging in bad habits.  Maybe, you’re not living an authentic and loving life because you’re in an incompatible relationship or career. If that’s t

  Do you feel as if time is always running out, as if you’re constantly rushed?  There is a remarkable remedy. It is called Patience—the art of taking life slow and easy and waiting for good things to come to you. With patience, you can accomplish more in less time, while being relaxed, at peace, and content. Here are some of the patience secrets we learned on Love University podcast this week:   *Hang around with patient people.  Spend time with individuals who are patient and relaxed. For example, be around wise, elderly individuals, or those who take the time to help others.  When you're around patient people, you can “catch” their patient energy. You will adopt their relaxed, easy-going approach to life, and you will achieve better results in the long run. *Let go until you feel underwhelmed.  Decrease your activities until you feel  there is nothing particularly important for you to do. Take an hour, several hours, or even a day to do absolutely nothing important or urgent. Cancel or postpone activities

Is life getting you down? Do you feel overwhelmed, sad, or anxious about the future? If so, then there’s a great solution for you. Our marvelous guest on Love University Podcast, Susan Smith Jones, Ph.D., happiness expert extraordinaire (Uplifted, 2022), shared her recipe for living an uplifted, peaceful, and joyful life.  Here’s what we learned: *Practice the Golden Rule without guarantees.  When you treat others the way you would like to be treated, you are practicing the Golden Rule. When you are kind and giving to others without expecting anything in return, you are offering unconditional love to the world. By doing this, the universe will return the favor in amazing ways by giving you the people, resources, and opportunities that will light up your life. *Treat your mind like a garden.  Susan tells us that our minds are like gardens where we plant our thought seeds. In life, it’s true that we can control three major things: What we eat, how we move (exercise), and what we think. Therefore, if you want