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Before getting to the heart of the matter -- how many times one should have had sex in 2023 -- we discuss some topics of perhaps more general interest. A woman has a curious predilection for small penises, prompting her to receive a large number of dick pics showing off all the smaller-than-average men available on the Internet. Her opinion, presumably, goes along with the old saw that what men do with the organ is more important than its size. Personally, I think both are pretty important. A man's delicate sweetheart gifts him with a large amount of urine to the face as she's climaxing from his ministrations. Apart from the obligatory race to the shower, what's the right level of aftercare in each direction for this situation? And, is a woman guilty of anything if she gives a married man oral sex, when she neither knew nor suspected she was married? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/150/

Discussion continues of Keith's concern that women don't particularly enjoy giving head, turning partly to the question of whether they're enjoyment of sex would be enhanced by "leaning into" a more submissive role rather than focusing primarily on emotional closeness. For the holidays, Keith made an effort to find a lady-friend willing to come with him on a Caribbean getaway. As he's not in a relationship right now, it would have to be a somewhat spur-of-the-moment thing, and he found it pretty difficult to find anyone willing to take him up on it. This leads into some conversation about dating strategies more broadly, and the reality that the male-female balance of power shifts in the man's direction as time passes generally: 20-year-old women hold all the cards, but by age 35 it's a different world. To wrap up the episode, we take on such perennial questions as female wetness, and the length that vagina odor tends to remain on the penis after sex, even after showering. We get a lot of our questions from R

There may be listeners who find it irritating when Keith and Mike pretty much agree on a subject, but such was the case regarding oral performed on women and how to optimize their orgasm quality. Sure, we haven't witnessed every single female orgasm that has ever happened on the planet (that will have to wait for the surveillance state of the 2030s), but our experience is that women who claim not to enjoy cunnilingus should probably give it another look. Perhaps this goes along with a somewhat standard rule about life: The thing that is more cumbersome for one person is often the thing that provides the most benefit to the other. Many men do try to "dodge" their oral responsibilities, and perhaps that proves the point that it's something women should want and generally do want. A man's wife offers him permission to see prostitutes while she is out of town. Is it a legitimate offer, or is this some elaborate form of entrapment? Should he do it, and what is the proper protocol? How far should he be willing to g

What should a man do if his female partner starts taking steroids or testosterone? Whether it's to become a weightlifter or as part of a hormone-replacement regimen, he's liable to be confronted by someone with a significantly different libido from the norm. It could even be -- bear with me here -- like the transition between Bruce Banner and The Incredible Hulk. Now, I'm no expert on the Marvel Cinematic Universe, but I believe the green guy has significantly larger body parts all over. In a similar vein, a man's partner might see her dainty vulva replaced by an angry red, or even purple, bulging clitoris. Should he become submissive in return? What if that's not really his style? Speaking of submissive men, Keith wanted to understand the impact of Kegel exercises on a woman's virility, specifically whether using something like Ben Wa balls could actually improve a woman's ability to "grip" her partner during sex. Also, is this kind of gripping always voluntary, or is there a certain amount of it that happen

Men really like it when their partners orgasm during sex, and Keith is no exception. He has a theory for why maybe his partners are more likely to get there than those of a random man. He hopes he's a kind of orgasm whisperer, particularly early in a relationship. Even pretty experienced and successful men probably make basic mistakes during early dates with a new partner. Keith offers some guidance on how men can correct these errors and move toward being "better" daters. For whatever reason, we've recently been sent a cock ring and a request to take a look at a sex doll website, so we take care of that. Female sex dolls make some sense, but what is the function of the male ones, complete with large, protruding, erect penises? And, we take a look at some data around first dates to try to evaluate claims made in various places on the Internet about male-female differences in that arena. Here is the article we discussed in the episode containing data from first dates: https://ymmv.me/146/first-dates Here are

If you're like me, and I can only assume that you are, your enjoyment of sex follows the pleasure principle and the harm principle. In other words, my main reason for wanting to do things is because they turn me on and make me feel good. I'm not a goddamned sexual charity after all. Well, come to find out that there are people out there who view sex in some sort of enlightened altruistic way. They do it "to increase the utility of all mankind". A bit preposterous when you consider the implications. Might one expect to see altruistic women offering blowjobs for free, because it's not all that much effort to make a man happy? Where would it end? Alongside considering remaking society, we delve into a woman who wants group sex with a whole cadre of men (no news on who gets to go first, but I'd call him the "winner"). A man claims to get nothing out of playing with his partner's breasts -- and Keith sort of understands where he's coming from. After all, once you've "captured" the breast, what are you supposed to

You're on a date with a woman, someone to whom you're pretty attracted, and she doesn't know a piece of information you thought was common knowledge. How should you react? Does it matter? Is it an opportunity to teach each other things about the world, or is it an indication that she won't be able to "keep up" with you? Speaking of enlightenment, are women more enlightened than men when thinking about sex? Only in the period just after achieving climax do men have a glimpse at objectivity about sex, whereas for women that's more the normal state. At least, I think so. If your partner specifically asked you for a facial, would you give it to her? Or would you be somewhat reluctant, wondering if it's something she "really" wants to have happen? And, what should a woman do if she finds out her partner has been consuming fetish porn that she finds ... troubling? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv

I think women are well within their rights to be proud or self-assured when they see their male partner's penis erupt into a fountain of semen during a sex session. It's reassuring, and it certainly suggests that his attraction is strong and enduring. But in a scientific sense, what it really means is that he's just masturbating less. Storing up his reserves, as it were, to release them on his partner. Now, this isn't necessarily a contrary indicator: His decreased masturbation frequency probably does mean he's pretty interested in the relationship. Something similar applies to a situation where someone realizes that their date has brought condoms to the party. It's a sign that sex was expected to be in the offing. The important question we analyze is whether that is presumptuous and/or problematic. And, wen a 50 year old man realizes he's not attracted physically to women his age, and not attracted mentally to those 30 years his junior, is the proper response to become asexual and take up a hobby? We get a

Straight back from a Covid-induced hiatus, Keith explains that fickle-ish women on dating apps aren't willing to wait out his illness for a chance to meet him. Except one, who may or may not have prepared him a steaming bowl of soup, which he may or may not have accepted. Speaking more globally, why is it that women are messaged that they shouldn't care about the things in men that they likely do care about: intelligence, ambition, ability. Instead, romantic notions seem to suggest that some random guy out there might be a "soul mate". Let's say you've made an agreement with your partner to accept pegging, and in return, your "fetish" of analizing her will be realized. She pegs you, and then she reneges. How upset should you be about this state of affairs? And, is it fair for her to peg you with an instrument that's exactly the same size as yours, or should it be a bit bigger given her likely smaller stature. We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some o

A friend tells you a story about a woman he's dating. He mentions that she climaxes so easily that he has difficulty even holding hands with her, lest it trigger her. What's your thought process? Does she have a medical condition? Is she telling the truth? Is she clear on what an orgasm even feels like? Now, let's say you're a woman, and you're married to a man who likes to draw sexually explicit pictures of redheaded women. You're not a redhead. Should you be jealous or angry? Or does it not really matter? And, what if he slips off to do it at inconvenient times? If your female partner wants to have an MMF threesome with you, and the other man wants to "eat the leavings" after you and your partner have PIV sex, should you be ok with that? Does it matter if a man ingests your semen after you've made the deposit? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/141/threesome https://ymmv.me/141/crying ht

Like a warm placid river running down her tongue to her throat. That's more or less how Ally describes the crucial last moments of oral pleasure as she gives it to her male partner. "It irrigates my tonsils," she says, as she relaxes into her easy chair. "It's like he's delivering me a medicine I didn't know I wanted, but I did." This self-evident truth shouldn't distract you, dear listener, from the other important topics discussed in this week's installment of YMMV. We discuss attractiveness levels as a person ages, followed by a discussion of what truly constitutes a "God Pussy" (c.f. the subreddit of the same name). It should come as little surprise that some men have a hard time telling when their partner is having a real orgasm, cleverly named by Mike as a "Cis-Orgasm," following the conventions of America in the 20's. And, what is a man to do who wants his female partner to be more dominant? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the quest

Keith has rediscovered the Amazon position, so we take a look at some videos that listeners will likely enjoy. It's one of the ways a woman can be more dominant in the bedroom, but it's a tricky position, as it requires the man to be "bent" downward in a way that might make the action difficult for him. So what's a dominant woman to do? We discuss some strategies which make use of their talents without requiring less-common activities such as pegging. A woman "used to be" a serial cheater, making her partner pretty uncomfortable. Another declared suddenly that there would be no more sex before marriage. And, if a woman doesn't feel anything during her climax, what does that suggest? To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode: https://ymmv.me/139/amazon-1 https://ymmv.me/139/amazon-2 https://ymmv.me/139/amazon-3 We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/139/cheating

There's a fine line between being a sugar baby and an escort. The question is how do you draw the line properly, and who falls on which side of it? Regardless, it's tricky to keep doing it after a certain age; once some amount of attractiveness wears off, she risks becoming yesterday's news. There are a lot of things that attract men to women, but "smell" usually is relatively far down on the list, unless you're talking about perfume. This is particularly the case for odors most consider objectionable. But, one man claims it's his fetish. Speaking of odors, what's behind someone wanting both partners to shower every time before they do the deed? And, what is the right approach to partners self-pleasuring in front of one another? Here is the link we discussed at the beginning of the recording: https://ymmv.me/138/sugar We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/138/smell https://ymmv.me/138/shower

We discuss the extent to which asking for consent and consent culture generally alter time-honored mating rituals. No cultural change is likely to dramatically reduce the young male libido, so does consent culture just shift the situation to him constantly demanding consent for sex? Is that actually better for his potential partner? Along the same dating axis, what is the right way to mirror your date's drinking habits? If you're not interested in drinking as much as her, can you accomplish that without her thinking something is awry? A man wants to know whether his wife is detecting his pheromones when she consistently initiates sex after he's just masturbated. A woman is concerned about how completely disinterested in sex her male partner becomes after the act is finished. And, how far can a man take "demanding" oral sex before it becomes abusive? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/137/p

If you're a woman and you are ready to commit to a man, it makes sense to me that you should "decide" he is your best-ever sex partner. My general sense is there probably isn't a hug difference between most of your "good" partners -- I know that some are just awful. So, assuming he's in the quality pile, it shouldn't be hard to do. But if you can't do it, you should be asking yourself why not, and what it is about that guy who still fills your daydreams that really turned you on. Maybe you've picked the wrong guy? We talk a fair bit about death grip, and the female equivalent, "white claw". But, a less common issue is when a man does something that makes him more sensitive in the bedroom and becomes a premature ejaculator. Should he worry about this, or will it take care of itself? An insensitive man made the mistake of telling his partner that he has vulval preferences. Is she wrong to be upset? Sure, there's not much she can do about it, but it's the same situation for other physical attributes. And, what l

What do a politician and a regretful camgirl have in common? Quite a lot in this day and age, where they can be one and the same. If I decided to join Chaturbate as anything other than one of the infamous "grays" who never tip, I'd definitely scratch "politician" off my list of life goals. Same goes for hosting a sex podcast, probably. I wonder, what percentage of camgirls decide later that maybe they regret the career choice. Does their feeling change depending on how successful they've been monetarily? Maybe fame makes a difference? We revisit the age-old question of whether a penis extender is a good or bad idea for a man's self esteem. We investigate yet another couple's free use arrangement. And, does wanting to have sex with a sleeping partner imply something more? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/135/somnophilia https://ymmv.me/135/extender https://ymmv.me/135/free-use Twitter: @

I'm old enough to remember back when Body Count was the name of Ice-T's band, which produced the single Cop Killer. This was back before he made his bones by pursuing his true passion as a detective in New York City. So women's body count has become the new version of Baby Got Back. You've got Becky on one side critiquing other women's assets, while other women argue that it shouldn't matter at all. What's the truth? Does it matter at all? It's pretty obvious that it's going to come down to what a woman values in life and whether her chosen body count gets her there. This is made more difficult, of course, if people aren't willing to be honest about what they want. In other matters, we've got a woman with the curious practice of freezing her sex partner's used condoms, presumably to save the semen. But what for? Is it really that hard to get a man to give you his semen the natural way? Maybe she thinks freezing the condom will turn her baby into some kind of superhero. Ice-Man or something. And, what's the be

Sure, there is a subset of women who want to be dominant in their relationships, but it's decidedly not the majority. And few, if any, women want to contend with a man insisting that his parts be locked up in a cock n' ball cage or that he wear ladies' garments while she pegs him. At some point, enough is enough. Further up the male sex spectrum, what about these men "caught" by the To Catch A Predator show. Is it entrapment? Can they be sure these aren't lonely men who would vastly prefer a non-underage girl but who felt (for whatever reason) like they had no other options? And, how should a man go about "guarding" his semen after depositing it in a condom? What's the true risk and downside if his female partner uses it in some nefarious way later? Could he microwave it to render it inert, or would it be too weird to run to the kitchen with a fully loaded prophylactic? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

On this episode we discuss how many children a modern billionaire could bequeath to the world. Given technology, the numbers have to be north of 100,000 children, assuming said billionaire is a man. Honestly I don't understand why no one has considered doing this, especially given how much money could be willed to each kid. What better way to secure a legacy? We discuss a man who is doing "everything" in his relationship but his wife just wants to masturbate and doesn't really want to have sex with him. Is there something more he should be doing, or does she have a paramour? Is it reasonable for a man to be nervous about "transferring" his semen to his partner, especially if he's unsure about her birth-control status? And, is it reasonable for her to be upset because he doesn't trust her? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/132/sexless https://ymmv.me/132/inside https://ymmv.me/132/outside

Following up on last week's episode, some listeners (primarily female) have taken the position that Mike is misogynistic for his portrayal of the typical woman's strategy for finding a partner and for sex in general. To respond to this, Mike provides a steel-manned case that he believes matches what these women believe. This was done in good faith in an effort to produce a convincing argument for how and why his own argument was misogynistic. A discussion then ensues about the quality of this case and whether it's actually a reasonable explanation of how women choose partners and pursue sex. We also tackle the subject of a man who is upset because his female partner noticed that his penis isn't very big when flaccid and had some choice words to say about it. And, can a woman really be loose? We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week: https://ymmv.me/131/shaming https://ymmv.me/131/loose Twitter: @ymmvpod Faceboo