The Smart Couple Podcast
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A trail blazing relationship podcast for growth-development oriented people who want a deeply fulfilling long-term relationship. Here we re-write the outdated nonsense of marriage and monogamy and offer you practical, easy to apply tools so you can get the kind of relationship you deserve and then strengthen it over time. Your host Jayson Gaddis once again shares his own traumas and triumphs on the way to "winning*" in marriage (*winning means he can get his connection needs met without compromising his values or integrity). Join him, his wife, and many other relationship geeks as they explore the next chapter of modern monogamy.
Episodes
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Powerful Sex Practices with Layla Martin - 446
09/05/2023 Duration: 54minIn this episode, Jayson interviews Layla Martin, a vibrant and inspirational woman who teaches a tantric approach to sex, love, and relationship. Layla will remind you of your brilliance in the bedroom in this discussion about everything from hand jobs to female self-pleasure practices. This episode contains powerful sex practices for anyone ready to deepen their sex life. Timestamps: What happened in Layla’s childhood that started her path to helping people improve their sex lives? [3:35] Layla shares the biggest struggle and opportunity she sees in couples regarding sexuality. [9:05] What do women and men each struggle with the most sexually? [10:40] A simple exercise a woman can do to improve her sexual experience [19:05] A simple three-part exercise to do after sex that will deepen your sexual connection [26:45] What to do when a woman has a stronger sex drive than her partner [33:15] How to respond when a guy loses his erection [33:55] Should a woman have sex even if she’s not wanting to? [34:30] Lay
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Individual Coach or Couples Coach–Who to Hire and When? - Jayson & Ellen - 445
02/05/2023 Duration: 26minJayson and Ellen discuss when couples should seek individual help versus working together with a coach or therapist, and how to use a coach/therapist to address relationship issues. Timestamps: 0:58 - Individual coaching/therapy vs. couples coaching/therapy 9:53 - Best way to use an individual coach/therapist to help with relationship problems 13:38 - When does individual work make sense? 15:45 - Should a practitioner see couples and individuals? 21:38 - Recomendations Links: Transcript Hire Ellen for relationship therapy & couples coaching Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720 704 4850
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Facing Death, Climbing, Filmmaking & The Creative Process - Pete Mortimer - 444
25/04/2023 Duration: 01h07minDo you find the psychology of extreme athletes and their relationships fascinating? Are you curious about what motivates climbers and mountaineers to push themselves to the limit and risk it all? Are you a creative and could you use some tips on how to follow your creative spirit? If so, you won't want to miss this interview with Emmy-winning American filmmaker Peter Mortmier, who shares his unique perspective on relationships. Jayson's experience as an extreme athlete and a therapist allows him to gain a unique insight into extreme athletes' psychology. In their conversation, they discuss the reasons why climbers push themselves to the edge, the deeper experiences they seek, and the heightened awareness they gain through their adventures. Discover the psychology of extreme athletes, as well as insights into the mind of a brilliant creator in this unforgettable episode. Timestamps: 0:55 - Guest introduction 10:50 - The Alpinist 36:00 - What motivates women who climb? 39:00 - Reel Rock 17 44:45 - How Pete t
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Asking Others to Change - Jayson Gaddis - 443
18/04/2023 Duration: 25minWould you change if someone asked you to? Asking people to change is common human behavior, but it can be problematic in our most intimate relationships, such as those with our children, parents, and partners. Tune in to this week's episode to hear Jayson's thoughts on his Instagram DMs and asking people to change. Timestamps: 1:50 - Why asking others to change is problematic 16:37 - Q&A with Jayson Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email
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Why Female Run Companies Are More Successful Than Male Run Companies - Julia Boorstin - 442
11/04/2023 Duration: 46minWhy are women-run companies more successful than male-run companies? If you are a woman, do you ever feel like the workplace is unfair? How often? This interview was completely eye-opening for Jayson, and very humbling, and we invite you to tune in. Timestamps: 1:00 - Guest introduction 6:02 - How Julia decided to focus on gender differences in When Women Lead 9:36 - Julia's career so far 13:20 - What statistics say about inequality 31:07 - The benefits when women lead companies 39:53 - Do women need to adopt stereotypically masculine traits to succeed? Links: Julia’s website Take the empathy test (“reading the minds eye test”) Follow Julia on Instagram @juliaboorstin Twitter @jboorstin LinkedIn @Julia Boorstin Buy Julia’s book → When Women Lead Review Julia’s Recommended Reading & Resources CNBC Disruptor 50 (an annual list she oversees, highlighting the private companies transforming the economy and challenging companies in established industries). Stay Tuned…The Future of TV (documentary) Clo
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The “Grass is Greener” Syndrome in Relationships - Jayson Gaddis - 441
04/04/2023 Duration: 26minIn this episode, Jayson shares his personal experience living with this mentality around partnerships/relationships for years. He unpacks what this mindset is really about and what you can do to get through it, which could potentially reframe your experience and help you commit to the one you’re with. Timestamps: 1:56 - The grass is greener mentality 5:42 - Two factors that contribute to the grass is greener mentality 13:05 - When is the grass actually greener? 18:37 - Jayson's personal experiance Links: Episode's Transcript Ep 18 – How Therapist Bruce Tift Helped Me Have the Balls to Marry My Wife Ep 31 – 2 Valid Reasons For Divorce Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Apply to Relationship Coach Training
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Life Purpose, the Cost of Comparison, & Spiritual Development - Dr. John Demartini - 440
28/03/2023 Duration: 01h31minWhat is my life's purpose? How can I find health and happiness? Many of us ask these common questions and Dr. John Demartini, one of Jayson’s mentors, shares his thoughts with us. Dr. Demartini is a polymath with four decades of research and expertise exploring over 200 disciplines in pursuit of what he calls the Universal Principles of Life and Health. In addition to his work as a researcher and best-selling author, Dr. Demartini travels the globe as an international educator/speaker. This episode traverses the great plains of modern medicine to symptomatology, enlightenment to reincarnation, cryptocurrency to financial advice, and the interpersonal/relational aspects of our human experiences. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn from this incredible man. Timestamps: What we do vs. what we say [8:30] What’s your strategy for achieving your goals? [11:30] So you think your job sucks, but does it really? [16:30] Illness, symptoms, and the mind [18:30] Thoughts on reincarnation [24:30] Demartini’s theor
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Never Ever Get Married Unless You Do These 3 Things - Jayson Gaddis - 439
21/03/2023 Duration: 14minIf you plan on getting married, make sure you are willing to do these three things... You won't want to miss this. Timestamps: 0:57 - Don’t get married unless… 2:58 - How should we define success in marriage? 5:34 - Only get married if you do these 3 things 11:07 - Takeaway Links: Read the transcript to this episode here Loneliness, Social Isolation And Living Alone – Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad – 301 Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Masterclass Library
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Honest Sex - Shana James - 438
14/03/2023 Duration: 48minOn this week’s episode we speak with relationship coach, author, TedX speaker, and host of the Man Alive podcast, Shana James about her newly released book, Honest Sex. We explore the intersection of sex, spirituality, authentic relating, and creativity, and she offers her expanded definition of sex: Tune in to learn about co-creating a deepened honesty to enhance sexual and relational connection/gratification. Timestamps: 0:59 - Guest introduction 2:07 - Interview 5:56 - Sexual creativity 15:07 - Fast food sex 23:05 - When should parents talk to kids about sex? 29:54 - Dealing with sexual differences 36:00 - Exercises for couples Useful Links: Shana’s website New book: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive (get chapter 6 for free) Podcast: Man Alive Podcast Instagram: @shanajames Facebook: @truesuccessformen TRS Podcast episode 348: Men, Pleasure, and Power with Shana James TRS Podcast episode 258: How Does a Woman Help a Man Open Up and Do His Inner Work? with
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Relationship is a Skill - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 437
07/03/2023 Duration: 35minJayson and Ellen discuss relationship skills we should learn (e.g. face reading, empathy, conflict resolution). There's no doubt that we have the capacity to have good relationships, because we know we're innately capable of being loving parents, partners, and positive citizens - that's what we're meant to be as humans - but cultivating our relational capacities is actually a developmental achievement and essential ingredient for health and wellness. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:46 - Relationship as a skill 14:38 - Why is a growth mindset important? 23:07 - Therapy clients vs. coaching clients 31:54 - Action step Useful Links: Enroll in Relationship Mastery Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"
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Myth of Normal & Adult Parent-Child Dynamics - Daniel Maté - 436
28/02/2023 Duration: 01h10minOn this week's podcast, we are joined by Daniel Maté. In addition to co-writing recent New York Times bestseller The Myth of Normal with his father, Dr. Gabor Maté, Daniel is a composer, lyricist, playwright, podcaster, artist, musician, and mental chiropractor - a current day renaissance man. Hear about how Daniel relates to his father, his experience growing up with Maté privilege, and how he contextualizes the complexities of the parent-child relationship psychologically while providing us with insightful reframes that speak to how we relate to our parents as adults. A few quotes from the book we feel compelled to share with you in hopes of inspiring you to read/listen to the book: “Trauma, until we work it through, keeps us stuck in the past, robbing us of the present moment’s riches, limiting who we can be.” “What joys have you denied yourself out of a belief that you don’t deserve them, or out of a conditioned fear that they’ll be snatched away?” “Whether we realize it or not, it is our woundedness,
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What Does “Do the Work” Actually Mean? - Jayson Gaddis - 435
21/02/2023 Duration: 10minApril from Austin asks, “You’re always talking about ‘doing the work’; what does that mean? Also, dealing with ‘inner child work,’ does this mean getting a therapist?” Lance wonders, “When does inner child work end? And how do we know when it’s finished?”Tune in for another Ask Me Anything episode where Jayson answers listener questions. Want to submit a question? Leave a comment in our Facebook Support Group or on Instagram @jaysongaddis or @therelationshipschool Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com read the transcript here
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Men’s Work, Male Vulnerability, & Infidelity - Connor Beaton - 434
14/02/2023 Duration: 47minIn this week’s episode, Jayson interviews Connor Beaton, author of Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage and Find Freedom. He is the founder of Man Talks, a speaker, a business coach, a lifestyle entrepreneur, a former opera singer, and a husband and father. This episode speaks to the problem that many men experience while practicing vulnerability. Useful Links: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ https://instagram.com/mantalks/ https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com
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AMA: Healing Attachment Wounds, Codependency & Happy Wife Happy Life - Jayson & Ellen - 433
07/02/2023 Duration: 38minCurtis asks, “In your expertise, do you perceive that attachment wounds and attachment styles are healed and transformed during partnership or outside of that? I’m curious to hear your thoughts because I’ve been doing a bit of research and finding different takes on it…” Another listener wonders if these phrases signal a lack of personal responsibility in a codependent relationship: “‘I can only feel okay when she (or he) is feeling okay,’ ‘I feel I need to make her (or him) happy,’ and ‘Happy wife, happy life’; how would an attachment framework view codependency?”. Ellen and Jayson address how we can heal our attachment wounds/adapt our attachment styles, highlight how we impact one another, and discuss the importance of finding common ground to propel the relationship forward. Stay tuned to the end for your action steps. Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/
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The Healing Power of Conflict with Annie Lalla - 432
31/01/2023 Duration: 01h02minAnnie Lalla brings the heat in this magnificent episode chock-full of hacks, insights, self-empowerment, love, and wisdom. Damn, can this woman spin some distinctions and reframe common challenges many of us face with simple, detailed examples of ways we can work to transform ourselves and our relationships into the magic we long for. It’s a must-listen-to (probably two or three times), and if you’re a note-taker, you’re going to want to grab your journal. This one is a doozie. Useful Links: Annie Lalla's Website Annie's “True Love” Test Facebook - Jayson Gaddis Fan Page U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4852 https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/
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Great Couples Struggle Too— A Personal Story - Jayson and Ellen - 431
24/01/2023 Duration: 24minHow can you be there for your partner when you need them to be there for you? How do you take care of your needs with a struggling partner who needs your support? Can you relate to sometimes having a hard time connecting with your partner—or having a hard time empathizing with them? Please tune in to hear Jayson and Ellen share what it’s like to struggle with conflict during a stressful time. Their recent experience helps put struggle into a psychological/relational context to aid understanding and compassion for you and your partner.
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How to Change Behavior Effectively - Jayson Gaddis - 430
17/01/2023 Duration: 16minAs you were growing up, your parents/culture/church/community/friends influenced your values and the positive and negative experiences you had. In this week’s episode, learn a bit about Jayson’s Compass Exercise (featured in Chapter 8 of his book), a strategy to determine your values and the direction you’re headed in life. If you want to succeed with your New Year’s resolutions or your goals this year, tune in. Useful Links: Read the transcript for this episode https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/
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AMA—Anxiously Attached Person, Emotions and Men, Accepting Your Partner as They Are - Jayson and Ellen - 429
10/01/2023 Duration: 29minTaber asks, “I’m an anxiously attached person and it’s become clear to me that it doesn’t work for me that my partner talks to another woman every day, behind my back. I have found proof that he has crossed the line with her before, and with anxious attachment I am not in a healthy enough place to accept him continuing friendship with this person. I’m welcoming advice on how to set this boundary for myself without just ending the relationship, and I certainly don’t want to give an ultimatum. I’m new to this and need to set my mind free.” Lestie wonders, “What do you simply accept in a relationship in the other, as opposed to trying to change it? I.e., one of you is clean, the other is messy, one is punctual, other is never on time… I’m having difficulty knowing what to and what not to address. I know Gottmans says 69% of issues in relationships aren’t resolved and it’s more about how you communicate about them than trying to change them, and where to draw the line? Some of these issues really bother me. I a
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The Neuroscience & Power of Safe Relationships with Dr. Stephen Porges - 428
03/01/2023 Duration: 56minDid you know how impactful our facial expressions and tone of voice are on our partner’s sense of safety? Have you ever wondered why you struggle to learn something new when you are stressed? Do you wonder why you are (or your partner is) so damn sensitive? Well, there’s a scientific reason for all of this and in this week’s episode, Jayson interviews the man who developed the polyvagal theory. He’s a real pioneer and someone who cares a lot about you feeling safe—in life and in your relationships. Dr. Stephen Porges is about to give you a big download on the reasons you might not feel safe and what you can do about it. Bottom line? We cover the neuroscience of safe relationships and how to create them. Useful Links: www.stephenporges.com https://www.gettingtozerobook.com https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery/ https://relationshipschool.com/getcoachingnow/
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AMA: Mismatched Sex Drives & How To Feel Like You’re Enough - Jayson Gaddis - 427
27/12/2022 Duration: 15minNicole asks, “I found your interview with (Dan) Savage to be highly enlightening and incredibly emotional. As a married straight woman in a monogamous relationship with children, I felt very triggered by the concept of ‘enough’. Am I enough? I am constantly struggling to feel like I am enough of anything, and I feel like your podcast has started to help me feel settled into an idea that monogamy and marriage can provide enough for both partners, if it is viewed as a journey and a goal. This interview ripped open some pretty deep and vulnerable wounds surrounding being enough.” Erica wonders, “I’ve been married to my husband for nine years and together for fourteen. Even in the beginning of our relationship the sex wasn’t as frequent as I’d have liked, so I had to. Now we’re married and I feel like the sissue is in the different sex drives continues to bother me. I just need to need more sex than he does. He knows that I wish he’d initiate sex more, and we’ve gone to many years of therapy. I fear this will ne