The Smart Couple Podcast

Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to thought-provoking insights about human interactions, relationships, and the delicate balance between self-expression and consideration for others. Tune in to this discussion that will inspire you to reflect on your own interactions and the impact of your actions on those around you. Timestamps: 4:04 - The story of the misattuned camper 11:38 - How our behavior impacts others 17:32 - Why our relationship to others matters 20:34 - Standing for three 21:48 - Keeping each other in mind Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the importance of maturing, resolving emotional issues, and achieving full integration as individuals. They cover diverse aspects, from self-connection to various spiritual paths, authentic leadership, and simplifying life for a more meaningful existence. Join Jayson and Mark for a journey into personal evolution and a reflection on the impact of technology on relationships. Timestamps: 0:46 - Guest introduction 7:04 - Levels of development 9:33 - The five stages 17:12 - Relational development  20:41 - Four frameworks 25:28 - Working on yourself through relationship 27:34 - Spiritual development 30:56 - Doing relational work as a man 36:18 - Moving from doing to being 39:14 - Is distraction a defense mechanism? 41:56 - Being present with your kids 45:11 - Digital distractions 51:51 - Making Integral Theory digestible 54:59 - Dissolving polarity 58:46 - Escaping th

Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover using relationships as a path to self-discovery. Tune in for an authentic journey of growth that reshapes your view on human connections. Timestamps: 2:28 - What happens on a two day retreat with Jayson? 9:53 - Accepting challenges as learning experiences 13:20 - Don't lose your relationship to yourself 16:31 - What does Buddhism have to say about ending the cycle of suffering? 21:06 - What is The Path? 23:37 - What makes relationships a good development path? 26:11 - How long does it take for someone to understand relationship as a development path? 28:33 - Action steps Links: Relationship As A Path Foundations Course Apply to Relationship Coach Training Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this episode, Jayson discusses the importance of finding the right coach or therapist. He also explains why you should identify your readiness for change and clarify your specific problem before seeking help. Learn why you should prioritize practitioners who are not only trained in the area you’re targeting but also actively involved in their own personal growth. Find out how to spot the real gems among personal recommendations, endorsements, and online reviews. If money is an issue, Jayson has a great question to ask. Timestamps: 1:41 - Questions you need to ask as a client 11:17 - Couples work or individual work? 13:26 - Hire a specialist 15:57 - Find a therapist who is doing the work 17:41 - Results matter 20:16 - Good therapists and coaches get supervision 23:09 - How much personal experience does a coach or therapist need? 29:41 - How much should therapists reveal about their personal lives? 32:23 - Reputation 33:59 - Does paying more equal better therapy? 37:16 - Action step Links: Apply to Relati

Uncover the captivating blend of art and science in relationship coaching. Join Jayson as he guides the way, painting a masterpiece of understanding, growth, and authenticity. Discover the science behind lasting happiness and the significance of deep connections for a fulfilling life. It's not just about belonging; it's about being truly known and loved. Step into a transformative adventure, mastering the art and science of coaching. Embrace your evolution, becoming a beacon of connection in a world craving relational leaders. Enroll in Relationship Coach Training now at relationshipschool.com/RCT. Start your transformative journey today, and become a catalyst for thriving, authentic relationships. Timestamps: 0:48 - What is relationship coaching and why is it important? 4:23 - The art of relationship coaching 12:31 - The power of the here and now 16:08 - The science of relationship coaching 17:04 - What we know about human fulfillment and life satisfaction 19:29 - The ACEs study 25:51 - Should you become a

In our latest episode, Jayson talks with Layne Norton, a distinguished figure in health, fitness, and personal development. Listen to their candid discussion on compassionate communication, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy relationships. Layne's emphasis on breaking free from restrictive food rules and embracing a balanced, joyful relationship with nourishment reflects his dedication to empowering individuals to achieve their health goals. Watch this inspiring episode to learn more and discover how exercise and weightlifting can transform your life, especially after age 40. Timestamps: 0:45 - Introduction 3:33 - How did Layne Norton get into evidence-based fitness and nutrition? 7:37 - Areas to focus on for long-term health 9:55 - How to avoid eating too much 13:05 - How tracking your food intake can help you make better choices 15:35 - How do you measure food? 20:54 - The ACEs study 30:25 - Empathy and accountability 32:40 - How important is doing the inner work in terms of health? 35:10 - How did

Are you ready to break free from the chains of victimhood and embrace empowerment? Join Jayson and Ellen in this episode as they dive deep into the complexities of fault versus responsibility. They also discuss the struggle between victimhood and authorship. Explore empowering perspectives, real-life stories, and learn how to transform challenges into personal growth opportunities. You won't want to miss this as they challenge the norms compassionately, fostering self-reflection and self-discovery without blame. Find out what got Ellen saying "Honey, We Should Have Talked Before You Posted.” Timestamps: 0:53 - Fault vs. responsibility 3:25 - Context 7:00 - Why do people get attached to their victim stance? 16:51 - Finding your part in painful experiences 27:48 - Learning about yourself through painful experiences 32:43 - When to take responsibility 35:23 - Why does resilience vary between people? 43:00 - What you gain by transcending your pain 45:43 - Dealing with victim dynamics as a coach or a therapist 51

A brave, smart couple shares their darkest period and how they worked through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years and then adds in a child to the mix will pretty much get rocked. Tripp (host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp) and Alyson (psychotherapist, relationship coach) share what happened and how they got through it. From their day-to-day check-ins, emotional distance, and meltdowns to transforming their sex life after kids, we imagine you’ll be amazed and inspired, and hopefully you will walk away with some actionable practices you can implement in your own relationship.  Timestamps: 7:40 - Guest introductions 10:08 - How did Tripp and Alyson meet? 22:23 - How to deal with it when things are "off" 28:09 - Learning from conflict 31:55 - Learning curiousity 32:40 - Challenging moments 50:53 - Advice for getting through hard times 1:01:03 - How to keep your sex life alive 1:21:10 - Where to find Alyson and Tripp 1:22:47 - Action steps   Links: The New Man Pod

Join Jayson and Ellen’s in-depth chat as they talk through listeners' questions in this Ask me Anything episode. Betty asks about a tough financial situation, Jean is looking for tips on how to break the toxic cycle of always being told it's your fault by their partner, Christy is struggling to differentiate between love addiction and being in love, and Alyssia is looking for advice on how to handle mixed messages. Tune in as they offer guidance on creating a strong foundation based on mutual respect to build healthy and fulfilling relationships. Timestamps: 1:12 - Financial conversations 14:05 - Space in a relationship 17:40 - Love addiction vs. being in love 29:23 - Mixed messages Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training Enroll in Relationship Mastery The Most Important Question To Ask To Determine If You Are Compatible - Jayson & Ellen - 372 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Join Coleman Hughes and Jayson as they discuss the multifaceted aspects of the anti-racist movement, evaluating its progress and identifying areas of improvement. Coleman Hughes is a writer, musician, opinion columnist, and host of the popular podcast Conversations with Coleman. His work focuses on race, public policy, and applied ethics. Through this engaging discussion, they strive to foster meaningful conversations, challenge assumptions, and pave the way for a more inclusive and harmonious society.  You won't want to miss this episode, so tune in now. Timestamps: 4:19 - Who is Coleman Hughes? 5:46 - Jayson's past exploring different viewpoints 8:48 - How does Coleman think about race? 12:29 - Anti-racist thought leaders, past and present 16:09 - The impact of social media 21:25 - Has the modern anti-racist movement made progress? 26:00 - How do we deal with racism? 30:19 - Root causes 36:04 - Tribalism 43:51 - Coleman's advice for white people 50:47 - Affirmative action 53:14 - Positive vs negative life

Why do people hesitate to speak up in relationships? And how do you speak up  if you are unhappy and unfulfilled in a relationship?  Why do you even need to speak up at that point, right? Many of us fear conflict and believe that speaking up will only make things worse. But let's challenge that notion. Is it a good enough reason to keep your thoughts and feelings hidden? The answer is a resounding no. The truth is, when we don't speak up, resentment builds. We start to feel a boundary being crossed, and instead of addressing it, we silently grow more and more frustrated. This is often seen in long-term partnerships and marriages, where uncomfortable topics are swept under the rug, creating a cage of unspoken truths. In the workplace, not speaking up can have its consequences too. You may find yourself seeking validation from others who share your frustrations, creating triangles that only reinforce your silence. It's time to break free from this cycle. In this episode Jayson and Ellen encourage you to find yo

Are you tired of feeling unfulfilled in your relationships or like something is missing from your life? Have you achieved success and acquired material possessions, yet still long for a deeper sense of happiness and purpose? It's time to shift your perspective and embrace a new way of approaching relationships. This episode explores Jayson's journey of self-discovery after embracing Buddhism's core teachings. He realized that relationships are about more than just happiness or meeting needs. Instead, they offer a path to wholeness and freedom. It is your relationships that can serve as catalysts for your personal growth and ultimate liberation. Now it's your turn to learn how to become a more authentic version of yourself by joining the transformational adventure. Imagine seeing your relationships as pathways to self-discovery and fulfillment, where every interaction is an opportunity for personal growth. Whether you are single, married, or have children, this episode will help you unlock the hidden potential

Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others? Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley says the issue could be trauma, trauma you may not even be aware you have. Once we assess our own trauma we can begin exercising our senses and become more compassionate to others. According to Sharon, we owe it to ourselves and to each other to consider the pain in our pasts, only then can we embody true empathy! Timestamps: 5:56 - How Sharon became interested in trauma 9:16 - What is it like to work with trauma? 14:08 - How does being present help treat trauma? 23:34 - The cost of not dealing with trauma 28:04 - Childhood neglect and trauma 33:42 - Issues caused by trauma 37:31 - Sharon's advice for young people 39:52 - Action step Links: Sharon Stanley’s Website & Info on Somatic Transformation  Book: Relational and Body-Centered Practices for Healing Trauma: Lifting the Burdens of the Past Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with t

Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you're probably feeling insecure and frustrated. In this episode, Jayson covers the signs and symptoms of codependency, the history of the term, how it "works" and what to do about it. You'll want to check this out! To sign up for our next Masterclass click HERE. Timestamps: 4:03 - What is codependency? 11:36 - Signs you might be experiencing codependency 16:21 - What are you getting out of hurtful relationship patterns? 18:24 - Increasing your self worth 20:00 - Other ways to do relationship 22:04 - Take action Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Masterclass

Renowned relationship expert, Stan Tatkin, joins Jayson and Ellen in discussing the concept of secure functioning and how it can transform your partnership. Introducing "In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them" This is not your typical self-help book filled with abstract theories and jargon. Instead, it offers practical guidance and actionable steps to help you and your partner thrive. Join us as we break down the complexities of couples therapy, emphasizing the importance of immediate action to stop the damage before delving into long-term growth. Witness the power of small agreements and the transformative potential of finding relief and care in each other. Gain insights into the mindset shift required to build a thriving relationship and move beyond self-centeredness towards genuine connection. Don't miss out on this enlightening episode that challenges conventional wisdom and offers practical strategies for building healthier, more fulfilling re

On this AMA episode we tackle important questions from listeners. Inna is dealing with her boyfriend's anger issues and wonders if breaking up is the only solution. Kendra seeks advice on how to handle criticism from her husband. Stay tuned as Jayson and Ellen answer more insightful questions and offer guidance on building healthy and fulfilling relationships. Timestamps: 1:37 - Dealing with an angry partner 13:21 - Receiving criticism 25:48 - Not asking our partner questions Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Apply to Relationship Coach Training Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50"

This podcast comes from a blog post Jayson wrote for Elephant Journal where he polled over 200 women on his social media channels with this question: Hetero-women: “What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership?” Over 200 women responded. It was an emotional read. So, guys, listen up and take notes. Timestamps: 2:02 - The top 6 things women want from men 3:46 - Willingness 5:02 - Emotional availability and vulnerability 7:12 - Presence 9:42 - Honesty 11:08 - Safety 12:09 - Self awareness 14:24 - Action step Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" 3 Types of Men in Partnership, Which One Are You? – Relationship School Podcast #230 For Men Who Have a Closed or Guarded Heart – Relationship School Podcast # 231 Toxic Masculinity & Male Sexuality – Relationship School Podcast # 233 The Relationship School The top 6 things women want from men (Advice from over 200 women)

Do you ever wonder if your relationship pain guides you deeper into whatever you need to heal yourself?  What kind of relationship do you have with God? With reality?  In this explorative and enlightening interview, Andrew Harvey explores how to create evolutionary love that is much bigger than the "you" you know yourself to be. Hang on tight for a mind-blowing ride as Andrew shares his perspective on how relationship work is sacred. He also shares how it serves your soul's calling.  Tune in and feel free to share your thoughts, feelings, and experience in the comments. Timestamps: Andrew’s definition of true love [11:00] Why is love hard? [12:00] 3 ways to build and cultivate true love [14:00] ‘The shadow’ and an exercise in shadow-work [22:00] Taking responsibility for disowned parts of yourself [29:00] Advice about purpose for when you’re feeling lost in life [30:00] The role of suffering on a spiritual path [40:00] A quote by Rumi [42:00] What is the most important thing people need to learn in relations

Want to know one tip that most of us avoid or don't execute well so you can have a sexy and powerful partnership that lasts? It isn't going on more dates, and it isn't getting really good at repair. Find out how to transform your romantic relationship with Jayson and Ellen in this week's episode, and leave a comment below with your response/experience. Timestamps: 1:43 - 1 tip to have a sexy, powerful partnership over time 5:11 - What's holding couples back? 9:19 - Having a plan 15:54 - What does co-creation mean? Links: Transcript Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720 704 4850

In this episode, Jayson interviews Layla Martin, a vibrant and inspirational woman who teaches a tantric approach to sex, love, and relationship. Layla will remind you of your brilliance in the bedroom in this discussion about everything from hand jobs to female self-pleasure practices. This episode contains powerful sex practices for anyone ready to deepen their sex life.   Timestamps: What happened in Layla’s childhood that started her path to helping people improve their sex lives? [3:35] Layla shares the biggest struggle and opportunity she sees in couples regarding sexuality. [9:05] What do women and men each struggle with the most sexually? [10:40] A simple exercise a woman can do to improve her sexual experience  [19:05] A simple three-part exercise to do after sex that will deepen your sexual connection [26:45] What to do when a woman has a stronger sex drive than her partner [33:15] How to respond when a guy loses his erection [33:55] Should a woman have sex even if she’s not wanting to? [34:30] Lay