Searching For Clair Huxtable

Episode Notes Maceo and Wae get back in the full swing of things and discuss what we have found VS what we should have looked for. Dating through the ages 18 - 70 +. This was an interesting and entertaining discussion about Men, Women, and the roles we seek one another to play. Listen, Subscribe, and Share with a Friend the Searching for Clair Huxtable movement is BACK!

Episode Notes Back from our Hiatus Hi Haters! Krysten & Asia talk Dating and Money on the this episode of SFCH.

Searching for Clair Huxtable LIVE was an event that filled the rollercoaster of emotions we all have. Laughing, crying, fussing, fighting, and cussing were the highlights of this event. We left on a high note of knowing there are still many differences in thought and understanding that exist between the Black Man & Black Woman’s point of view. The good thing is we agreed to agree on many topics … disagree on a few key points. Guests included Brandon, Chari, Eboni, Karima, Nicole, Tiffany and of course Maceo & WAE.Race, society, roles, and sex all played out in discussions ranging from a man ‘whipping it out,’ to Black Women being in the corner of Black Men who may/may not be in theirs. We thank all our guests and welcome you to listen to this intriguing and engaging live discussion.

We live in a society where men having a “side chick”, also referred to as a mistress (if married), happens way too much. To some men, being in a relationship without a side-chick is like eating a meal without something to drink – Yes, it can be done, but it not as enjoyable. No matter society’s opinion of a side chick, there are plenty of women who go along with this dynamic. Sometimes it’s the part a woman chooses to play, and other times it’s a role given to them and they try to deal with it. So why is this particular woman finding herself as just the side-chick and not the main chick? Could it be that it’s a role she accepts? TV shows like “The Real Side-Chicks of Charlotte”, custom T-Shirts promoting the behavior, even a “Side Chick 10 Commandments” and “Side Chick Contract”s would prove that this role is not only embraced but welcomed.

“Searching for Clair Huxtable – Mixtape Vol 2”. We welcome everyone to take a journey with us as we revisit and highlight our favorite moments and drops from episodes 9 – 15. We also discuss future show topics, changes, and improvements, and detail the things we do behind the scenes to prepare for each episode. So, if you’ve missed any of our previous Eps or if you’re new to the family and not sure where to start, this Mixtape is the perfect way to wet your appetite! So check it out and enjoy!All episodes of Searching for Clair Huxtable are covered in this episode too. The mix of laughs, life, and love is in captured in the essence of this. Maceo and WAE host an open discussion throughout the episode to help curate what was, what is, and what’s to come. Thanks for the love.www.searchingforclairhuxtable.com

What 1992 black Rom/Com starring Eddie Murphy, Halle Berry, Martin Lawrence, David Alan Grier, Chris Rock and Robin Givens (post her divorce with Mike Tyson) grossed $70 million domestically and $131 million worldwide? You have 20secs (We’ll wait….). The answer is – “Boomerang”. Now if you didn’t know that, then not only would you be asked to “Pick Your Poison” right now, but your “Hood Pass” or “Ghetto Card” should be revoked! In this week’s episode, we’re posting our first of many urban cinema classics that we feel coincide with the goal of SFCH Podcast.To briefly summarize, Eddie Murphy plays “Marcus Graham”, an Advertisement Exec and playboy, whose reputation is to seduce the ladies, then love ’em and leave ’em for any variety of superficial reasons including what he refers to as “hammer time in her shoes.” (a.k.a. bad feet). Now Marcus isn’t above sleeping his way to the top, which we learn early on as his company is being acqu [...]

“Submission” has become a buzzword of sorts. At some point in the dating process its mentioned by us (men) as a desirable trait. But when we do, eyebrows are raised, eyes start rolling, and in most cases, an argument is about to ensue. It’s a frustrating conversation that women seem to go apeshit over. They hear us say we want a submissive woman and they envision a man wanting a woman like to Vanessa Bell Calloway’s character in “Coming to America”, the type of woman who answers every question with, “whatever you like” and will hop on one foot while barking like a dog (if necessary) to please her man. So, let’s explore this relationship dynamic and discuss what qualifies a man to lead and a woman to submit. In today’s metro-sexual charged society and apparent feminization of black men in the media, do black women even believe the black man is capable? Or maybe something is getting lost in translation between ‘Mars’ and ‘Venus’, and women need a clear und [...]

Birth control, Emergency contraception, and Abortions are hot-button topics that should be mandatory discussions in a relationship. Everyone knows that Birth control is designed to prevent pregnancy, but Birth control methods work in a number of different ways. To be clear, “the morning after pill” or “Plan B” falls under the category of Emergency contraception and is NOT a form of birth control…. or at least it shouldn’t be viewed/used as such. So if you are sexually active or planning to be, don’t use Emergency contraception as your only protection against pregnancy. In addition, Emergency contraception does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases.“Plan B” pills are a great way to prevent pregnancy up to 72 hours after unprotected sex and can be used as a resource if a condom breaks or other means of birth control fails. Emergency contraception will not interrupt an existing pregnancy. So for the folks who (still) incorrectly believe that emerg [...]

Searching for Clair Huxtable is back with vengeance. Hosts Maceo and WAE offer the lost episode of the podcast. We just passed 1000 downloads and thank you all for the support and love. This is a giveback. Guests Donna, Chari, and Eboni (from episode 9: When She’s Not into Him) stayed over a bit longer and the discussion was heated. Takes from Maceo, WAE, and the guests go back and forth like a tennis match. All moving further to find a resolution to the ‘Black Dating Dilemma.’Check this out and share with friends. Remember every Wednesday visit www.searchingforclairhuxtable.com for new episodes.

Well, well, well. We’ve finally made our way to the topic of “Sex Toys”. Although finding a woman who is against sex toys is pretty rare nowadays, some men, however, are a little intimidated by the idea of bringing a little ‘something-something’ extra into the bedroom. Considering the orgasm-inducing power of some sex toys, it makes sense.Female (and male) sex toys have been on the rise for years, and more and more people are using them with their partners. A recent survey issued by “Lelo Global Sex” found that 72% of those who own sex toys use them with their partners. Of the women out there who own two or more sex toys, only 28% of them are single, in comparison to the 62% who are in committed relationships. Also, 78 % of women can’t orgasm by penetration alone and need clitoral stimulation. This means that if you’re not into bringing sex toys into the mix, then you had better step up your game.If you’re in the category that’s still like “m [...]

So….you’ve made the decision to refrain from sex while dating. Congratulations! Well, sort of. While we celebrate your courage to make this choice, it hard to deny that in today’s dating culture, it’s highly improbable you’ll find someone who practices celibacy while dating. But maybe not. Maybe many other singles have made this personal and/or spiritual choice and decided to become celibate while they date. However, it can’t be ignored that for celibate individuals, relationships can be very difficult and are twice as challenging. The first challenge is, of course, meeting someone who is willing to be in a celibate relationship. That said, let’s explore the Pros and Cons of being celibate while dating, how one comes to this decision and is it really worth it? Our guest this week is Natalie. And Natalie has been celibate for 7yrs! You heard us right, 7yrs….and counting! Now before you ask, no she hasn’t been incarcerated for the past 7yrs, [...]

When a woman is right for a man, there isn’t a list long enough or words strong enough to explain all the things he loves her or how he truly feels. We all know that men are (mostly) visual creatures so we have to consider the effort, time and investment that’s been made before he reaches the conclusion that she’s “Mrs. Right”. Good or bad, every relationship has a starting point. So what happens when a woman is unreceptive to a man’s advances? When she’s just not into him? Is it deceptive to date a man if you know he likes you more than you like him? Would this be considered leading him on if you continue to go out with him and not make him aware? At what point does your this become an ethical decision and speak one’s integrity and principles outside of dating? [Whew] That’s a lot of questions! But believe it or not, we’re just scratching the surface. Based on some of the stories we’ve heard and others we’ve read on social media about gu [...]

For decades, Mixtapes have played an increasingly significant role in the Hip-Hop world. As products of the Hip-Hop culture and our musical background, it’s not hard to figure out the catalyst for the “Searching for Clair Huxtable – Mixtape Vol 1”. We welcome everyone to take a journey with us as we revisit and highlight our favorite moments and drops from the first 7 episodes. We also discuss future show topics, changes, and improvements, and detail the things we do behind the scenes to prepare for each episode. So, if you’ve missed any of our previous Eps or if you’re new to the family and not sure where to start, this Mixtape is the perfect way to wet your appetite! So check it out and enjoy!All episodes of Searching for Clair Huxtable are covered in this episode too. The mix of laughs, life, and love is in captured in the essence of this. Maceo and WAE host an open discussion throughout the episode to help curate what was, what is, and what’s to [...]

Breakups are never easy, especially when there is love involved. After a breakup, it can be healthy for people to reflect on what they’ve learned from the past relationship and what they want to improve in the next one. Now how one chooses to end a relationship varies. Because social media has become such an integral part of our lives, breakups have grown to become more impersonal. The ‘face to face’ break up has become a method of the past and many relationships have ended via text or by some other social media platform. So it bears the question – What’s the most effective way to break up with someone? Especially when ending an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Is breaking up with a man and a woman different? And finally, how do you heal and move on and avoid that gray area which often occurs post break up, where you’re behaving like a couple, but there’s no commitment? There are plenty of Breakups do’s and don’ts. Brain-mapping studies have s [...]

Dating for women with child/children can be challenging and often frustrating for women. It adds an extra layer of complexity to the relationship, especially if she has primary custody, which is most likely the case. In addition, many men are hesitant to date a woman with child/children because it can present problems they would rather not have to deal with. For example – Dates are more likely planned which affects spontaneity, the potentially traumatic effects childbirth may have on the woman’s body (i.e. stretch marks, sagging breasts, scarring (C-section) and vagina stretching post childbirth), the possibility of dealing with a “Baby Daddy” or multiple “Baby Daddies” if still in the picture, and finally the possibility of there being double the heartbreak if the relationship doesn’t work out. How does the effect a woman’s dating style and the frequency of which she dates? When is the best time to integrate your child/children into your dating lifestyl [...]

These days more than ever, single people are dating in their 40’s — both men and women — feel free to date a wide range of age groups. One has to wonder though – Is hooking up with someone 10 years your junior (senior) a good long-term decision? Or are you better off with someone who is closer to your age? What challenges do you face when dating people older or younger, and how do you cope? Not only did we find the answers to these questions when we sat down with Loran and Michelle, we found that their views on courtship, dating, and behaviors, sex drives haven’t changed much at all and age literally “ain’t nuthin’ but a number”.Every Wednesday visit www.searchingforclairhuxtable.com for a new episode from Maceo and WAE. Next week’s episode is ‘Dating with Kids’ episode 6. More on Dating, flirting, sex, relationships, love, and life from a Black man’s perspective on African American Women.

Platonic friendships between (heterosexual) men and women are always imperfect, meaning there is always a possibility that the sexual attraction will get in the way. Are men incapable of having a platonic friendship? Can men and women truly be just friends? Maceo and Wae enter a doubles match with Gia and Nay, returning serve after serving as they attempt to avoid game, set, and match! Make sure you check out www.searchingforclairhuxtable.com every Wednesday for updates and more, tell a friend & your friend’s friend too.

This week’s episode revolves around the #HurtBae relationship video that has now gone viral. In just a few weeks, the #HurtBae phenomenon has generated more ‘confession’ style videos and countless comedic spoofs of the original. We invited Karima and Zenobia stop by the studio to add their perspectives and provide insight in our most energetic discussions to date! You don’t want to miss this!www.searchingforclairhuxtable.com

Bryanna, Erica and Ber-Henda all stop by “Detroit is Different Studios” and talk men not stepping up (emotionally). Bryanna made a Facebook post weeks ago that caught the attention of WAE and many others. Bryanna’s post expressed the challenges that women face in relationships with men who are emotionally damaged and taking ownership. This led to a great discussion about society, men/women, the Black community and the roles we play. Maceo and WAE give the guy’s point of view against a trio ready to talk!Searching For Clair Huxtable Episode 2 with Guests Bryanna, Ber-Henda, and Ericawww.searchingforclairhuxtable.com

Ex’s come to the show to talk the history and dating style of Maceo & WAE in a relationship. Vanessa (Huxtable) and Deena share what it was like to date the ‘Searching for Clair Huxtable’ hosts. Vanessa dated Maceo and Deena dated WAE. Stories of trips to Vegas, the friend zone, and expectation are all explored. Also, the introduction of the idea of ‘sexual variety’ is presented. Check out this podcast full of laughs, fun, and real-life stories. This is also the introductory episode of ‘Searching for Clair Huxtable.’www.searchingforclairhuxtable.com