Searching For Clair Huxtable

“Submission” has become a buzzword of sorts. At some point in the dating process its mentioned by us (men) as a desirable trait. But when we do, eyebrows are raised, eyes start rolling, and in most cases, an argument is about to ensue. It’s a frustrating conversation that women seem to go apeshit over. They hear us say we want a submissive woman and they envision a man wanting a woman like to Vanessa Bell Calloway’s character in “Coming to America”, the type of woman who answers every question with, “whatever you like” and will hop on one foot while barking like a dog (if necessary) to please her man. So, let’s explore this relationship dynamic and discuss what qualifies a man to lead and a woman to submit. In today’s metro-sexual charged society and apparent feminization of black men in the media, do black women even believe the black man is capable? Or maybe something is getting lost in translation between ‘Mars’ and ‘Venus’, and women need a clear und [...]