Coming Forward

Indigenous-related articles and podcasts mentioned: Missing-and-Murdered-Indigenous-Women-and-Girls-Report Wósdéé Podcast, Navajo Nation All My Relations Podcast Returning to the Rez on Apple Podcasts Trauma and suicide in Indigenous people, Centre for Suicide Prevention  -- Themes/Mentioned Terminology: Complex Trauma  Complex PTSD Trauma within an Indigenous Community  Disrupting Racist Comments and Stereotypes  Colonization and Decolonization  Native Therapist  Dissociation  Triggers Denial Language  As always, additional resources regarding abuse (local, hotlines, national): https://www.ascanyc.org/resources - Donations (thank you!): http://paypal.me/comingforward

Topics and themes discussed: having the strength to seek help, taking responsibility, self pity, negative thinking, low self esteem, unable to love self, the importance of support groups, learning to cope, goal setting.  -- Thank you to this courageous presenter. Commending you for creating your own topics outside of ASCA and my suggestions. Thank you for making this episode truly your own. Thank you sharing your process. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in speaking about bullying, addiction and suicide. In awe of your courage - you are an inspiration. Thank you for pointing out the importance of self-love, presence and support. I hope you are proud. -- Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call 1-800-273-8255 (Available 24 hours everyday) Online chat: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/ -- Affordable, sliding-scale therapy options in Brooklyn and Manhattan:  Brooklyn: Brooklyn Center for Psychotherapy & New Directions, The Jewish Board, Kings County Hospital Cen

I hope this opens the door for many more LGBTQ episodes to come for the month of June and beyond. Thank you to this guest for bring your family photo, for sharing poetry, for sharing your story and for simply being you. Honoring this guest and making this experience their own. You shine so bright.  -- High level mentions: Workplace discrimination Destigmatizing therapy  Importance of LGBTQ inclusive therapists  Poem shared:  Blank Page, within Limitless book of poems by Danna Faulds New York Insight OUT Refuge: LGBTQI Sangha (4th Wednesday of each month | 6:30-8:30pm)    -- **Support and resources from NAMI (more within articles):  The American Psychological Association (APA) provides countless educational and support resources on a range of LGBTQ topics The Association for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Issues in Counseling delivers educational and support resources for LGBTQ individuals, as well as promoting competency on LGBTQ issues for counseling pro

A refreshing reminder that we meet ourselves exactly where we are right now in our process with self-compassion, love and kindness. Thank you to this courageous presenter for not only telling, but showing your process. In awe of your strength and courage.  -- Topic readings: Telling our story and maintaining a relationship with a past perpetrator Link to topics: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5bb621ac34c4e254dd6315e9/t/5bd78e08f4e1fc0b2cbf8ab8/1540853257345/ReaderCmeeting.pdf Resources: https://www.ascanyc.org/resources -- Mentioned works:  - The Incest Diary By Anonymous - https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/18/books/review-anonymous-incest-diary.html - Autobiography of Carlos Santana - Roxane Gay - http://www.roxanegay.com/

Next topic and/or episode thoughts? I want to hear from you! Thinking about the topic, Money and Finances. Open to other suggestions though! Email is comingforwardnyc@gmail.com -- ASCA materials: https://www.ascanyc.org/partners Resources: https://www.ascanyc.org/resources Book referenced by presenter: Outgrowing the pain together by Eliana Gil EMDR Leading Expert reference: #641 – Reflections on The Cutting Edge of Trauma Therapy with Ricky Greenwald PsyD - https://shrinkrapradio.com/641-reflections-on-the-cutting-edge-of-trauma-therapy-with-ricky-greenwald-psyd/ -- Additional announcements- (will be also stated at the end of the next episode):  1) Thank you to our first $50 donation on meetup! (haven't even asked yet!) Really appreciating this support. Donations will be going to the website development costs, meetup subscription and radio free brooklyn community dues at the moment.  2) Please subscribe, rate, review, share! Also email- reach out- say hello. There are many of you listening,

Resources mentioned within this episode:  - Talking to Your Kids About Sexual Assault: https://www.rainn.org/articles/talking-your-kids-about-sexual-assault - Viktor E Frankl's book- Man's Search for Meaning  -The Body Keeps the Score referenced pages- (If you do not have the book, please email and I can send you the text) Pages 26-27 under the section, Making Sense of the Suffering and Pages 76-78 under the section, Ivan Pavlov and the Instinct of Purpose.  -ASCA https://www.ascanyc.org/ (If you are interested in starting an ASCA support group in your area, please email comingforwardnyc@gmail.com)  -Fact check on Blackbird play, yes our presenter was correct- it is Jeff Daniels and Michelle Williams -Tiger, Tiger: A Memoir Book by Margaux Fragoso -Dr. Joe Dispenza- https://drjoedispenza.com/pages/about -You Can Heal Your Life- Book by Louise Hay  -Additional resources here with hotlines and organizations: https://www.ascanyc.org/resources  -- Topic reading: In Viktor E Frankl's

Resources:  National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) Available 24 hours everyday Additional mental health resources: https://www.ascanyc.org/resources -- Referenced in this episode:  - Writer, professor, editor, and commentator, Roxane Gay - specifically her book, Hunger (http://www.roxanegay.com/hunger/) - Research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, Brené Brown  (https://brenebrown.com/)  Brené Brown Ted talks here: https://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brown -- Self-Sabotage Topic reading- please find here with other topics and it is also pasted below: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5bb621ac34c4e254dd6315e9/t/5bd78e08f4e1fc0b2cbf8ab8/1540853257345/ReaderCmeeting.pdf Where low self-esteem is the primary feeling of most adult survivors, self-sabotage is the corresponding behavior pattern. Self-sabotage is any kind of conscious or unconscious behavior that undermines our successful functioning in the world. Self-sabotage may range from

"As we begin to re-experience a visceral reconnection with the needs of our bodies, there is a brand new capacity to warmly love the self. We experience a new quality of authenticity in our caring, which redirects our attention to our health, our diets, our energy, our time management. This enhanced care for the self arises spontaneously and naturally, not as a response to a "should." We are able to experience an immediate and intrinsic pleasure in self-care." -Stephen Cope, Yoga and the Quest for the True Self  ^Opening chapter of the referenced book, The Body Keeps the Score (Chapter 16. Learning to Inhabit Your Body: Yoga) -- Tara Brach, Ph.D, psychologist, author and teacher of meditation, emotional healing and spiritual awakening. (Her podcasts are an excellent resource for mindfulness) https://www.tarabrach.com/ -- Self-Soothing Topic Reading:  One of the more important skills for us to learn is how to emotionally soothe ourselves. Most of us never learned to self-soothe in childhood because p

Extending a warm and kind thank you to this very special guest. Thank you for making ASCA possible, this podcast possible and so much more. Thank you for being support for so many. Thank you for all that you do behind the scenes. We all deeply appreciate you.  -- Please feel free to write in and share feedback. It can be general or related to a specific episode. Please note, if you have something you want discussed related to the next topic (self soothing), we are recording on Tuesday (4/2) evening so please send before then so we can include within the conversation component after the presenters share.  -- Reading material below:  Perhaps the single most powerful aspect concerning our recovery process, especially during Stage One recovery, is the telling of our story. Our "story" usually includes 1) the circumstances surrounding our abuse, 2) the factual details of the various incidents of abuse, (physical, sexual and/or emotional), 3) the experiences of family and elders responding and/or not

A courageous long share on the topic of Confronting and Resolving followed up by an informal conversation.  Reading material on the topic can be found here: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5bb621ac34c4e254dd6315e9/t/5bd78e08f4e1fc0b2cbf8ab8/1540853257345/ReaderCmeeting.pdf -- The book referenced in regards to writing a letter is here: Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters Book by Donna Frazier Glynn and Susan Forward -- The Child Welfare referenced website for definitions and other information can be found here: https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/can/ -- And to fact check the origin of gaslighting, our presenter was correct- "The term originates in the systematic psychological manipulation of a victim by her husband in the 1938 stage play Gaslight, known as Angel Street in the United States, and the film adaptations released in 1940 and 1944." (Wikipedia) 

You may be feeling very tender and vulnerable after listening, so please be very gentle in all your interactions, especially with yourself.  Resources: https://www.ascanyc.org/resources Information on EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/ -- Apologies for any outside noise and new york city honking toward the end. We will be moving to a recording studio in the coming weeks.  -- After thoughtful review and feedback from episode one, the following disclaimer will be stated moving forward either before or during recordings -- As participants in the room for the recording of the podcast: 1) We will only speak in "I statements" and not "you statements". 2) We are speaking only about our experiences and not about any other asca member or survivor community. 3) We are sharing our own experiences and are not experts on any given topic. 4) We will refrain from any specific names or specifics of other individuals stories. We can say sister, mom, etc. but no names. We are not telling anyone's story but our