Parenting In The Thick Of It With Louise Clarke

Constantly having to wait for a teenager to get their acts together and be anywhere on time can be tough and enough to do our heads in. However, until you ask yourself these two questions “Whose problem is it?” and “Why is it still a problem?” you will most probably continue to wait! I always say that we cocreate the patterns that exist in our homes and never more so than in this situation. Let me explain… If you are struggling with things and are in need of some parenting support, I’m here! I have two group coaching programs that I run, a 6-week one (once a week) that starts whenever you are ready to start and an 8-week one (twice a week) that only runs three times a year. I have a couple of sweet deals on them right now. For the 8-week program, if you share a podcast episode poster from my Instagram feed (louiseclarke.ypp) on your story, and tag me, you’ll be entered into a draw to win a FREE spot in the program and for the 6-week program, if you bring a friend, you will get 50% off the cost of the program,

Summertime: Screen time: Green time… if you are struggling to hold the limits around your kid’s device use and sick and tired of them lazing around the house doing nothing but scrolling on their phones, then tune in. It is never too late… There is so much more that we have to be doing if we want to make sure our kids are getting what they need in life, not to mention preserve our sanity in it… It can be hard to hold ourselves accountable whilst making the much-needed changes in the way we parent, but I can help you. I mentioned my 6-week group coaching program in the episode today so if you would like to join me, you can do so via the link below. It’s also nice to do it with a friend so that you can help each other out. As such, if you bring a friend, you will get 50% off the cost of the program, and if you bring two friends you will get yours for free! All you have to do is email me with your name and your friend’s names and I’ll take care of the rest. The link is here: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/ry

If you feel that your kids tune out to what you are “telling” them, then this is for you! When I got curious as to why they perhaps tuned out, then I knew what I had to do and you can too. Curious? Tune in… If you would like to join my new 8-week group coaching program starting mid-September, or find out more about it, you can do so via the link here: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/8-week-coaching-dep-a FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/p

It can be hard to remain positive in the face of negativity, but I believe there is a way to help our kids navigate their way out of this frame of mind. Knowing certain things about our negativity bias and developing the skill to be able to reframe things, use empathy + curiosity, we can help ease our kids from negativity into a better mindset. Tune in… In this episode I refer to Byron Katie’s The Work and her 4 Questions. You can find out more about her and the questions here: https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/ If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt You can find out more about Seth and Melanie and all the wonderful work they do here: https://www.thestudleys.com/ FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/

I want to ask you this: Does you having expectations of your child mean that the expectation will play out? And how might you having this expectation impact your child? And what happens when this expectation doesn’t come to fruition? Who suffers? This is a topic that I spend hours discussing with those who work with me, in both my one-on-one coaching and in my group coaching programs. If you are curious, I’d recommend you listen to this. Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourpa

When we “give” something to someone, technically the object becomes theirs, right? So, with this in mind, what’s the deal when the gift is a phone? Does the phone become your child’s or is it yours? If it is theirs, what then is your role in managing it or trying to manage it? Tune in as I discuss this and the ramifications of it in more detail… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA Twitter: https://twit

The ability to disagree respectfully and resolve conflict amicably are skills that don’t always come easily to us. In this episode, I discuss why I think this is, and what we can do to hone and refine our skills and in so doing, role model them to our kids. Quite frankly, I was crap at this and have got much, much better at it and guess what? My kids are really quite good at it, in fact, at times still better than me. LOL. Curious as to how I did it? Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebo

Feeling our feelings is such an important part of being able to navigate them and use them to guide us. The problem is, when we are resisting our reality and operating from FEAR mode, we can’t access other feelings and subsequently miss the lessons they might give us. Tune in… The poster I referred to in this episode is by Susan David of Emotional Agility If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA Twitter: ht

Trust me, THIS skill is so vital and yet it is often not the focus of our attention, and it should be. We need to be aware of this and always hold onto it, especially if we want our kids to listen to us. Curious as to what you need to hold onto? Don’t miss this one and tune in… https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/b80a18ed-e1e9-4fc5-9400-afba5f736c9d?fbclid=IwAR0eQh8GQcd7PGx-UU9I0rbZVKx05eBTj7VBU1viIooCcUCi1Os2suZaTL8 If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube: ht

I regularly hear from parents that they are worried about their child lacking confidence and how do they help them become more confident. It can be scary to see a child not be able to do something that we know they are capable of, so how do we handle it? In today’s episode, I share with you tips on how to do this. And, apologies for the “cat” background noise, I have a Harry Houdini of a cat who despite being shut out, still manages to get into places and disrupt the peace!! Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Fac

Do you believe that your kids “should” only have to be asked once? And, if so, do you only have to ask once? If you find yourself in a position where, despite believing that you should only have to ask once, you have to ask over and over again, then tune in and find out what you can do to stay less reactive and actually get your kids to follow through with something. Getting triggered and reactive certainly doesn’t work but what else can you do? Curious? Listen in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.

We all want our family dinners to be peaceful and nice and be a time to connect with each other but many times it doesn’t quite go to plan! So, what do you do? What can you do? Curious? Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5EfavQA Twitter: https://twitter.com/YPPartner Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/louiseclarkeyourparentingpartn/ Medium: https://medium.com/@mlouiseclarke iTunes: https://itunes.ap

Do you ever find yourself wishing that your partner would just change or see things the way you do? And do you also wish your child would sometimes change the way s/he behaves? These are things we often find ourselves wishing for but wishing won’t change anything. In today’s show I discuss this with Seth and Melanie Studley, the podcast hosts of Anatomy of Marriage, Anatomy of Family and Anatomy of Sex and they are aaahhhhmaze-zing! We had such a good conversation about who has to change if you want things to change. Curious? Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt You can find out more about Seth and Melanie and all the wonderful work they do here: https://www.thestudleys.com/ FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.

In the heat of the moment do you have a reliable go to? A “card” you can play to get you out of jail? To stop you from taking things personally, or seeing your kids behavior as a reflection of you or to stop you dialling into the drama that’s playing out in front of you? You have to have something you can do, or things will go downhill and downhill fast. But what? Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqdQ1_fC72bKutwr5

Just like athletes have to train for the “game”, I believe that we, as parents, have to put in the training too. We are, after all, on the court, field, course, track, whatever you wish you call it, ALL.THE.TIME. We are actually rarely off the hook and yet do we really prepare for it, train for it and continue to raise our bars? We really should be training for this more than anything else in our lives, yet do we? Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.ypp Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourparentingpartner/ YouTube:

Working on these things all require effort, we don’t just miraculously wake up feeling good every day of the week! If we want to feel energized, or be in a growth mindset and see the infinite potential in all that is, we have to take the responsibility for choosing it. For so much of the time we blame others for how we are feeling or, we believe that we will feel better when we get x or do y or see z. This is sheer lunacy in my books as we are putting our eggs in a basket we actually have no control of. How often to you find yourself pinning your happiness on external things that you can’t always control. So what can we do? Curious? Tune in… If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/pa

519: Your Child’s “REACTION” Is Their Reaction! Listen to me one more time!  It’s not your reaction, it has nothing to do with you and it’s not a reflection of you as a parent.  Our reaction to something is ours alone, no one else’s.  Our chosen behaviour is our choice, our child’s chosen behaviour is their choice.  We need to stop taking their behaviour and reactions personally, but how can we do that when we feel charged up in the moment?  Tune in… You can find a link to the Jay Shetty Podcast episode, in today’s show, where he interviewed Will Smith here: https://jayshetty.me/podcast/owning-your-truth-and-unlocking-the-power-of-manifestation/ Jay Shetty’s Podcast is called: On Purpose If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/

Today I share an article about Zara McDermott and Chloe, two women who have been victim of “Revenge Porn”, the uninvited sharing of intimate photos.  This is a very serious subject that is happening more and more frequently.  We need to discuss this with our teens and help them understand the dangers of taking and sharing intimate photos.  Unsure how to broach the subject with your kids?  Tune in… Please find a link to the article which I read in this episode today here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/b80a18ed-e1e9-4fc5-9400-afba5f736c9d?fbclid=IwAR0eQh8GQcd7PGx-UU9I0rbZVKx05eBTj7VBU1viIooCcUCi1Os2suZaTL8 If you live in the UK or have access to BBC iPlayer, you can watch the documentary called Zara McDermott – Revenge Porn via this link: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p096h12v If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/

Do you find that you’re always battling with your child in arguments?  This is such a common problem that parents reach out to me about.   These problems are almost always a lack of understanding of the other person’s perspective.  This lack of understanding gets us triggered!  But you only get trapped if you pick up the other end of that rope.  How do you train yourself to not fall for that temptation and what can you do if you find yourself trapped?  Tune in… You can find a link to the Jay Shetty Podcast episode, I mentioned on the show today, where he interviewed Will Smith here: https://jayshetty.me/podcast/owning-your-truth-and-unlocking-the-power-of-manifestation/ Jay Shetty’s Podcast is called: On Purpose If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website

Are you a naturally pessimistic person?  It makes a big difference in how we show up as a parent.  If we are coming in from a lack-based, or pessimistic mindset, it makes it awfully hard to parent.  However, we can work on ourselves and use the C-crets so we can show up and parent.  It takes a lot of committed work, but it can be done.  Do you want to know how?  Tune in… Dr. Nicole LePara’s book, How to do the Work : https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/book/ If you would like to join my private Facebook Group, Parenting In The Thick Of It and join thousands of like-minded parents and get some support, please join me via the link below: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingInTheThickOfIt FOLLOW ME ONLINE HERE: Website: https://yourparentingpartner.com/ Book: Parenting The Modern Teen: https://go.yourparentingpartner.com/parenting-the-modern-teen Parenting In The Thick Of It Family Organizer: https://parentinginthethickofit.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/louiseclarke.