Sex Ed The Musical

You’re about to meet my friend Sabrina Schroeder, who is single, smart, adventurous, athletic, hilarious, a cat lover, defiantly carnivorous, a beer enthusiast, and a million more things.  Oh yeah, she’s also disabled. In this episode, we talk about what it’s like to date when you’re disabled. How she meets people. What it’s like to have sex when you have disabilities. How she navigates the always complex dating world, and the hilarious way she’s rebelling against her parents. You’ll never guess in a million years. Nearly 1 in 4 adults in the United States has some type of disability. Very focused on the importance of representation, in this conversation, Sabrina shares great advice about acceptance, honest communication, and best practices for dating someone disabled. Spoiler Alert: Her advice is great for everyone regardless of ability. Although this is a very funny conversation at times, whatever your personal circumstances or relationship status may be, there’s a lot to be learned here. As Sabrina say

May was National Masturbation Month! Did you spend all 31 days dialing your rotary phone?   I certainly hope so.   You may not realize this, but one of the keys to stronger, longer lasting orgasms is a healthy pelvic floor. But what is a pelvic floor, and does it require a cork underlayment?   Sorry…I watch a lot of home improvement shows. On this episode, I talk to Dr. Rachel Gelman. With over 15,000 hours of clinical practice under her belt (pun intended) Rachel is a leading expert on pelvic health. For the next half hour, she’s your guide to, as she calls it, the “cave of wonders.” We learn the ins and outs of these true core muscles and how painful sex, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and many other issues are often signs you should see a pelvic health expert. We talk about the Kegel industrial complex, menopause myths, and why you should not be afraid to see a pelvic health expert. At 20:04 Dr. Gelman offers simple tips to help you maintain tip top pelvic health, and even reveals the $25 late

Having sex with someone new can be a potentially stressful situation. “How do I measure up with their other partners?” “What do they think of my body?” “Am I pleasing them?” Now, imagine you’re in bed with a professional SEX COACH whose job is to teach people how to enjoy the most fulfilling sex and pleasure possible. That is A LOT of pressure. For you…and them. On this episode I speak with Wendy Perkins, a trauma-informed orgasm, and neuro-pleasure coach. An author and sought-after expert who’s been featured in BuzzFeed News, Wendy hacked her own ADHD, and now helps people discover unique pathways to take ownership of their pleasure. Oh yeah… she’s also single and dating. As you could imagine, when potential sex partners find out she’s an orgasm and pleasure coach…well, the reactions she gets are pretty surprising. Wendy reveals how male potential sex partners typically fall into one of three categories when they learn about her job. Female potential sex partners have a completely different reaction. Plus,

Amish Paradise. Eat It. Like A Surgeon. I Love Rocky Road. Smells Like Nirvana. I Lost On Jeopardy. White & Nerdy… Since the early 80s, “Weird Al” Yankovic has been churning out hit song parodies, some more enduring than the original songs that inspired them. An unapologetic nerd and proud outsider, his songs are not just commentaries on pop culture, they’re also full of references to Star Wars, comic books and lunch meats. But there’s something about the “King Of The Nerds” that speaks directly to his army of die-hard fans: It’s 100% cool to be yourself, especially if you’re weird. One of the outsiders Weird Al inspired is Pickles Kintaro, a burlesque dancer in San Francisco. In this episode, Pickles reveals how, as an outsider for most of her life, Weird Al’s music absolutely validated her and empowered her to accept herself and then completely celebrate her weirdness. With nothing but a butter churn stripper pole, and a dream, Pickles gathered a team of misfit burlesque dancers with a shared mission. T

“Follow your bliss and don't be afraid. Doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be.” —Joseph Campbell Imagine you’ve produced some of the biggest hit shows in television. You’ve won accolades and prestigious, pointy awards for your work. You’re at the top of your game and everyone wants to hire you. Yet, you’re totally miserable. Not so hard to believe, really. In this Re/Invented interview I speak with Emily Sinclair. An executive producer at the top of the TV game, Emily had it all. Executive Producing fancy shows…constant work…big money…someone always handing you coffee the second you want it…life at the top of the TV industry can be very seductive. On the surface. But Emily Sinclair had other priorities and instead of being an MVP, she was secretly more interested in the MLS. So, she walked away from the top of the TV industry and found a new home in real estate. And she’s never been happier. Tons of us are toiling away in careers we secretly hate. Worried that our colleagues might jud

fan·ta·sy /ˈfan(t)əsē/ noun Imagination, especially when extravagant and unrestrained. Often impossible or improbable. It's a fact. We all have fantasies. From scoring the game-winning touchdown, to winning an Academy Award, to destroying the drum kit in your next door neighbor’s garage with a sledge hammer. I’m speaking hypothetically, of course. Fantasies are a healthy and normal part of the human experience. Within the vast array of fantasies, you’ll also find Sexual Fantasies. Their main purpose is to turn us on. But what happens if one of them actually comes true? They say you should never meet your heroes because there’s a good chance they won’t possibly live up to your expectations. I get that. Is it the same for sexual fantasies? Are they better kept in the imagination? What if you had the chance to make your biggest sexual fantasy come true in a perfectly safe and consensual way? A sexual fantasy you’ve been dreaming about as long as you can remember. Would you do it? My guest this week was given

Welcome back you sickening bitches! (sorry…I’ve been watching a lot of RuPaul’s Drag Race) Sooooo, after going Under Covers with a few fellas, I figured I’d flip the script and in this episode speak to a professional in the world of sex. A Sex Coach, to be exact. Okay, what’s a Sex Coach? Great question, thank you for asking. According to the folks at Sex Coach U, Sex Coaching is not is not sex therapy. (Sex Coaches) focus on the present and the future, helping clients move towards what they want to achieve. Sex coaching typically takes place over a shorter time frame than sex therapy. Sex coaches are not sex workers. Most sex coaches will work “talk-only” with clients and sex coaches do not offer erotic services. In this Under Covers conversation, find out how a childhood with hippie parents shaped the sex coach. How her early sexual experiences and freedom created a natural transition to helping others with their own sex lives. We go into her experiences with kink, role playing and all sorts of private plac

This week’s conversation is with a male, who spent his first 24 years as a female. Not exactly by choice. As Forest says on his website, thehumanconditioncoaching.com “Growing up as a doubly closeted gay boy in the Midwest, I cultivated a vivid world inside my head where I felt safe and free. Eventually, I would have to come out of hiding no matter how scary it felt. I realized the fear was never going to disappear, but I felt like I was starting to disappear after so many years of keeping parts of myself boxed in.” For the first 24 years of his life, Forest didn’t have the language to articulate his experience and was unable to identify himself as transgender. Feeling uncomfortable in his own body, Forest went on an incredible journey to discover his truth. Now that he has, he’s helping others find their way as well. A self-described empathic, spiritual, queer, trans, kinky, white boy with a vulva, Forest knows a thing or two about authenticity and pleasure. Which is why I really loved going Under Covers wi

7th grade. It’s a boy/girl party in my best friend’s basement. There are about 10 of us there. Rumors by Fleetwood Mac, is playing non-stop on the record player. The lights are low. The air is filled with equal parts anticipation and terror. Someone suggests we play a game called 7 Minutes in Heaven. The voice you’re about to hear belongs to someone who was also at that party. We eventually lost touch with each other when I moved to the big city in 8th grade, but we recently reconnected. When I asked him if he’d be interested in being interviewed as part of the Under Covers series he graciously agreed. I have no nostalgia for my middle school years. I always felt like a misfit and a weirdo back then. Probably because I was a misfit and a weirdo back then. I never had the right clothes or the right shoes or the right anything. I was frequently bullied and take joy in knowing that my biggest bully married into what’s been described as an extremist religious cult. She is now is required to wear a wig and obey h

Three years ago on this podcast, I began asking women of different ages, sexual identities and socioeconomic backgrounds a series of questions about the most intimate details of their lives. I called the interviews Under Covers. All of the women were asked the same questions about their sexual awakenings, different partners, early experiences and relationships, with the hope that we could find healing in discovering how much we all share. Well this season, I’ve decided to flip the script. I’m taking the exact questions I asked women, and I’m asking them to men. In this first Under Covers with a man, I speak with a guy I’ve named David. That’s not his real name, every one of these interviews is completely anonymous. All you need to know is that David is 51, married and identifies as gay. That’s where all similarities end…or begin. LINKS Here are some stills from Angels In Chains. The Paley Center on Angels in Chains For all things Charlie's Angels, check out CharliesAngels.com, run by my pal Mike Pingel, THE C

“This is the best way for me to be seen. How I want to be seen. And that is as a Muslim woman.” When nurse practitioner Neda walked into a pole dancing class while wearing a hijab, she had no agenda. A life-long athlete, she had purchased a Class Pass and decided to use it to learn some “ho stuff” from “a bunch of strippers.” However, she learned a lot more than just some “ho stuff,” and by the end of her first class, she was hooked to the pole. Now with nearly 50,000 followers on Instagram, @hijabluscious is a study in sharp contrasts. Despite the fact that in much of the western world, a hijab is often interpreted as a symbol of Muslim women’s oppression, she proudly rocks her head and neck covering while pulling off some dope shit on the pole. “I had people trying to share my videos out of contempt. Trying to harass me. All that did was give me more attention.” Due to the many pole dancing videos she’s shared, Neda has received all sorts of angry threats and accusations. While at the same time, she’s insp

Imagine you had the perfect partner. Someone who constantly saw to your needs. Put you first. Gave you whatever you wanted whenever you wanted it. Treated you with respect, tenderness and unconditional love at all times. Sounds pretty amazing, huh? Well, it turns out this relationship is possible. That very person is right within reach. Closer than you’d ever imagine. That person is YOU. On this episode, I lead you to a partner who gives you the ultimate in acceptance, pampering, seduction and satisfaction. At the center of it all is trust. Trusting yourself. Most of us have been socialized to put ourselves last. To be responsible for everyone else’s feelings and needs — even if they’re not aligned with our own. Well, it’s time to put that bullshit in the rear view mirror and learn how to seduce and satisfy yourself. All of this is not necessarily groundbreaking, but thanks to Complexity Bias we often discredit the simplest things in life, even though they often work the best. This week, I’m showing you just

Cynthia Nixon. Meredith Baxter. Niecy Nash. Cassandra Peterson/Elvira. Elizabeth Gilbert. Glennon Doyle. Carol Liefer. Wanda Sykes. What do the incredibly accomplished and talented women on this list all have in common? They all dated and/or married men…until later in life when they all fell in love with other woman. Often to their own surprise. Known as Later in Life Lesbians, these women discovered an entirely new level of intimacy, happiness and sexual satisfaction, with members of the same sex. It should be no surprise. In a recent study, 95% of heterosexual men said they reached orgasm when being sexually intimate. How many hetero women had orgasms with their male partners? 65%. Read that again. 95% of straight men had orgasms. 65% of straight women. In comparison, the orgasm rate for lesbians was 86%. Not that I even need to explain this, but the women who reported more orgasms were recipients of more oral sex. Because, of course. Men, I’ve been saying this for years. You are the next Fotomat. What is

Slut. Whore. Trollop. Skank. Nympho. THAT kind of girl. Have you ever noticed how many words there are for judging women who enjoy sex? Now let’s consider some of the words for men who enjoy sex. Gigolo. Stud. Casanova. Player. Ladies’ man. Wait a second! All of those are compliments! That’s weird. No, it’s actually quite deliberate. In fact, if you want to insult a man who likes sex, you have to call him a man whore or a man slut. That’s right, you have to call him a name that is reserved for demeaning women. On this episode, I read an excerpt from my new book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted. The chapter, entitled, Choose Your Words Wisely, addresses how the language often used for women who openly enjoy sex or celebrate their sexuality, is nothing more than an attack on our autonomy. It’s also rooted in patriarchal expectations of women and a way to keep us at odds with each other. This is completely calculated because infighting among the oppressed is what kee

I can certainly see why you might assume my life is a non-stop, swinging, suburban bacchanal. Unfortunately it’s a lot less groovy than you’d imagine. Sure I can be found at the occasional sex party. However, while most folks are there for NSA, consensual hook ups, I’m likely being overwhelmed by bad flooring. That’s because I have a problem. I’m a serial remodeler. As a result, I’m totally addicted to home improvement and real estate shows. I watch hours and hours of kindly Canadian contractors, stressed-out house flippers, kitchen and bathroom rescues, and people pretending to house hunt. If I’m being totally honest, it’s really more of a love/hate relationship. I love the shows but I hate the insane needs they invent for said hunters. “We need 11 bedrooms, 10+ acres, must be walking distance to city center, with a 360 degree mountain view, spa bathroom, spa living room, spa crawl space, zero-gravity sneaker closet, cat washing room, 35 car rooftop garage in an Open-Concept-Victorian-Tudor-Mid-Century-Moder

The standards of masculinity are not exactly clear. On one end of the spectrum, you have the guy driving a Prius who’s in touch with his feelings, does yoga, drinks kombucha, has tons of female friends and rejects all forms of violence. On the other end, you have the guy driving a giant pick up truck who’s addicted to violence, porn, hating women, dominating men, and who rejects anything perceived as “feminine” such as admitting any kind of weakness or asking for help. There has to be a middle ground. Perhaps a dude in a BMW addicted to violent yoga? I don’t know. But it’s clear that with the rise of the #MeToo movement, rampant sexual violence and addiction, the normalization of misogynistic hate groups and the fact that an entire generation of young men are now being vastly outnumbered by women in college admissions, men are at a crisis point. Can men be fixed? This week’s guest, Traver Boehm believes they can. And he’s just the guy to do it. Traver Boehm knows men. How they think, what’s behind their behav

For years I’ve been extolling the health benefits of masturbation. But did you know buzzing one off on the daily could lead to a lucrative career? That’s right. You can be a sex toy reviewer!!! Now, before you think just about anyone can become the Pauline Kael of strap-ons, you have to realize that this job takes dedication, a relatively fearless snatch and genuine writing talent. In fact, there’s one person who’s basically cornered the market to the point where she is quite rightfully, America’s #1 Sex Toy Reviewer — Hey Epiphora! Having been featured in featured in Playboy, Slate, Women’s Health, VICE, and many other major outlets, Epiphora’s relentlessly honest sex toy reviews have earned her the reputation as one of the most trusted and smart voices in the world of dirty stuff. Having been in this game for over a decade and personally tested and reviewed just about every ridiculous pleasure product invented since 2008, Epiphora is now the proud owner of more than 800 sex toys and counting. In fact,

Has your sex drive vanished? Are you no longer interested in intimacy? Would you rather spend 45 minutes waiting in line for a vegan taquito sample at Costco, than have sex? Well…you’re not alone. In April 2018, Pamela Joy delivered the TEDx talk, Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire, which has been viewed nearly 2,000,000 times. Her brave and personal story clearly struck a note with all of the other women facing this exact challenge. In fact, looking for a solution to her sex life, changed the trajectory of her entire life. Pamela left a career in high tech and founded Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. Now, through her writing, speaking and coaching, she hopes to inspire individuals and couples to find ways to renew and deepen desire and intimacy in their own relationships. On this episode, she offers solutions for: Finding a middle ground for the desire discrepancy between you and your partner. How to get out of the pattern of having pain

“Make failure your fuel.” —Abby Wambach   About 4 years ago, after I left Playboy, I was feeling completely directionless in my career. Overnight all of my structure, value and access to unlimited free lube had vanished. I had not vision for my future. Looking for some next-level guidance, I reached out to a Shaman I had met a few months earlier at a retreat. She point blank asked me, "Exactly what is it you want to do?" Without even thinking I replied, "I want to help women and laugh all day." She looked at me softly in this very knowing way and said, "Then do that." Uhhh… So, I did exactly that. As you’re about to hear in this episode, this is a story of almost having everything, then losing almost everything, then finding a whole new success powered by a world renown soccer player and a litany of complete indifference. That might be the worst logline ever. Or the best. Just listen to this very special episode and all of it will make perfect sense. Here’s the link to Abby Wambach’s life-changing speech at

Welcome Back! Yep, I’ve taken a few weeks off this summer to release my first book, 3 Secrets To The Happy and Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted which, I am thrilled to announce is a…   A Top 100 Book on Amazon and the #1 NEW RELEASE IN SEXUAL HEALTH!   I wrote this book because I realized that millions of people are caught up in toxic relationship overthinking. They’re constantly repeating the same mistakes and bad decisions with no idea how to change this behavior. In my work as a Sexologist and the creator of premium, sex-positive programming, I’ve discovered if you really want to have a happy and healthy relationship, you only need to do 3 things. And one of the things has nothing to do with your partner at all! Once you put my 3 Secrets into play, a lifetime of love, happiness and fun can follow. 3 Secrets To The Happy & Healthy Relationship You’ve Always F*cking Wanted is a completely clear and candid roadmap to relationship success, offering ADVANCED SEX TIPS, TOYS, and ROMANTIC AD