Love & Livelihood With Folashade A. Butler

Alex Merritt, The Love Engineer, talks about why communication really is the key in relationships and why chemistry is not. She drops major gems that will help both men and women truly understand how to better understand and communicate with each other. Men and women communicate for different reasons, but both sexes love to talk. What men dont like is criticism. So they may not talk as much or respond as frequently as women would like because they want to avoid feeling like their opinion is not valued by the women in thieir lives. They enjoy talking about things that are of interest to them and that welcome them in and allow them to show some levels of vulnerability Men talk to solve a problem. Women talk to connect. For women, the act of talking is solving the problem; they use talking as a way to build connections; they want men to listen...not fix. Alex’s advice to men is, “listening is fixing”...so listen to your women. Alex’s advice to women is, “tell him why he’s listening.” We are the first generat