Curious Fox Podcast

What does scientific research tell us about relationship satisfaction in non-monogamy? What can monogamous folks learn from the research done on non-monogamous relationships? How do monogamy and non-monogamy differ when it comes to relationship satisfaction, mate retention, and conflict resolution?   Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Justin Mogilski about his international research on the best and the worst strategies for navigating consensually non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Mogilski’s research - the first one of its kind conducted with diversity in the data as a priority - identifies nine empirically supported strategies that result in higher relationship quality and sexual satisfaction in non-monogamous relationships. Our guide in this exploration is Dr. Justin Mogilski  Justin K. Mogilski earned his Ph.D. in evolutionary psychology in 2017 from Oakland University. He is an assistant professor at the University of South Carolina, Salkehatchie. He researches how evolution has shaped brain computation to

As Pride month comes to an end, we were curious: What keeps us from feeling proud of our gender or orientation? How does the politicalization of our gender and orientation impact the way we feel about ourselves? How can we create spaces - within ourselves and within our homes and communities - where our identity as LGBTQ folk can be nurtured? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Ariana Moran and Maxx Fenning about identity formation, internal and external producers of shame and fear about our identity, and what we can do to help ourselves and others embrace the full expression of who we are. Dr. Ariana Moran is a clinical psychologist and the founder and owner of Elemental Psychology PLLC, based in Brooklyn, New York. Her work in the therapy room is focused on helping her clients align with the truest versions of themselves by healing the relationship to self and focusing on the intersections and integration of one’s multiple identities. She practices from a holistic, fundamentally nonjudgmenta

What does desire have to do with LGBTQ+ liberation? Is there room for eroticism within the fight for equity? Often when we tell or hear queer stories, they are stories of trauma, sadness and hardship. Even happy tales tend to be stories of overcoming obstacles, winning against adversity, healing from hurt.  In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Jaime Grant about how stories of pleasure, delight, satisfaction, and discovery are equally effective within the work towards LGBTQ+ justice - and even more so because they keep us focused on the world we are trying to create. To find out more about JaimeDr. Jaime M. Grant is a lesbian feminist activist, coach, and a sober mother of two, who came of age in feminist and racial justice movements in the 80s. Her sexual liberation workshop, Desire Mapping, has been produced on campuses and at LGBTQ rights conferences around the world; and her podcast, Just Sex, captures the stories of Desire Mappers. Grant’s research has appeared in The Harvard LGBTQ Policy J

This week we bring you a Pride installment of our new feature, Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo.Tiana Glittersaurus Rex is a Black, queer, kinky, polyamorous woman in New York City. Tiana shares her journey of going from a traditional marriage to a joyful and active member of the kink, poly, and femme dom communities. She has not only discovered her authentic self expression but is dedicated to supporting others to do the same through community, advocacy, and education. You can find out more about Tiana on Instagram at @Glittersaurus.Rex or via her organization Sex Work Survival Guide @swsurvivalguide. Listen to the podcast that Tiana produces: Hard or Soft Podcast. If you are in New York for Pride 2022, join Tiana at Kinks & Drinks on June 24th where consent is king, weirdness reigns supreme and ALL bodies are welcome. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice mem

Erectile dysfunction, STIs, vaccinations, and safe anal play are important conversations for men – particularly queer men – to have with their doctor’s and partners. However sometimes the most important conversations are also the most difficult ones. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride and Men’s Health Month by speaking with the “butt stuff” doctor, Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist, Doctor Carlton. How can you find the right doctor? What should you ask during your appointment? How can you pleasurably and safely explore anal play? What is unique about sexual health within the gay and queer community? And what is a butt clock?With 3 million likes and over 200,000 followers on TikTok, Doctor Carlton shares his expertise on men’s sexual health and pleasure, tips for tops and bottoms, and sex advice for every body and orientation. To find out more about Dr. CarltonDoctor Carlton is a Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist in San Diego, California who you have probably seen on TikTok or Insta

How can queer folks explore the full scope of their attraction if they are in a monogamous relationship? How can we stay within integrity and still tap into our desire to connect with people of different genders?Inspired by a listener question, Effy and Jacqueline kick off pride month by sharing some strategies for how to explore your sexuality, while staying within your relationship agreements.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Even though it sounds different why does it feel like we are having the same fight with our partners over and over again? What does it take to change the patterns we fall into when we are amidst an argument? What are some of the common mistakes that lock us into seemingly irreconcilable discourse? This week Effy and Jacqueline do a coaching session to address the argument patterns Jackie and her partner find themselves in over and over again. After a long text exchange in the middle of the night after one of those arguments, Effy and Jacqueline decide to unpack how Jackie and her partner fight in a recorded coaching session in the hopes that they can bring insight to everyone stuck in their own argument patterns.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why do we say hurtful things to people we love? Why do we make agreements that we can’t or don’t want to keep? Why do we cheat, even when we are mindful of the consequences? Effy and Jacqueline go on a quest to figure out why we step out of integrity in our relationships with others and ourselves and what we can do to prevent those transgressions by exploring the hot-cold empathy gap coined by George Loewenstein, a psychologist and economist at Carnegie Mellon University. They look to the elephant and the rider analogy from the book Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath to dissect those behaviour we all do and regret afterwards.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

All mental health providers are not equal. That doesn't mean good or bad, but simply different training, specialties, and personalities. In this episode, Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla sit down with Dr. Thomas Whitfield to discuss the best way to find a therapist for your sexual and mental health needs. They explore everything from key phrases to google, the distinction between the types of therapies, and some controversial therapeutic methods for addressing sexual trauma. As mentioned on the episode; Waking Up The Tiger - Peter LevineEpisode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Soma with Rida KıraşıTo find more about Thomas Whitfield and his work visit his website www.SexEdByThomas.com and on IG and Twitter @twhitfieldphd.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

In a world where self-care has become synonymous with warm baths and face masks, how can we truly care for ourselves? Is taking it easy and putting your feet up the best way to support your mental health? How can we find a self-care practice that supports our current mental health needs?In honor of mental health month, Effy and Jaqueline take an intentional deep dive into focus on the most important relationship in our lives - our relationship with ourselves. Mentioned on the episode; Episode 33: Finding The Right Therapist for All Lifestyles with Dr. Thomas WhitfieldEpisode 57: Masturbation as self-love and sex nest update with Stella HarrisEpisode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Soma with Rida KıraşıSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Threesomes are a great way to explore sexuality and dip your toe into opening up your relationship. But how much of it do you plan and how much of it do you leave to chance? No one ever seems to talk about the uncomfortable parts of setting up a threesome, what makes a threesome good or bad, and what happens afterward? What should you discuss with your partner *before* you get in the sheets with another? More importantly, where is any of this information for that elusive third party?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline hang out with Lola Jean, an international sexuality educator, and talk through threesome strategies as well as bust some myths.To learn more about Lola Jean, follow her on Instagram @lolajeandotcom, or via her website: lolajean.com.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why are date nights so important? What happens when date nights become an obligation or duty? How can we approach date nights with creativity and ensure they are in service of the relationships and those in it? In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to design-conscious date nights (and days and weekends) that serve different purposes depending on what the relationship might need and share creative ideas and inspiration for all sorts of experiences. As referenced in the episode, check out these ones if you like:Episode 57 - Masturbation as Self Love with Stella HarrisEpisode 67 - Butt Plugs and Pick Up Lines Episode 86 - How to Find a Sex Worker with Miss Shayla Episode 94 - Pegging and Butt Stuff with Lola Jean Episode 98 - Magic Embodiment and Sexuality with Haylin BelayEpisode 110 - Exploring Tantra with Barbara CarrellasSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wea

Tantra, which means woven together in Sanskrit, brings the spiritual and sexual together in an experience that deepens connection and intimacy. Though thousands of years old, many have not explored this practice because of myths and misinformation. Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Barbara Carrellas to explore urban tantra, an accessible adaptation of this ancient tradition.To find out more about Barbara: Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary, and Luxurious Loving. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine and received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. Her workshops are always an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all gender

We are going back to our roots with this episode. Curious Fox started in Brooklyn basements, with regular people courageously sharing personal stories of going against the grain in love and connection.  This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are introducing Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. They are bringing you the tale of @lucy.sweetkill, pro Dom and BDSM life coach, and Nick, her partner of 5 years. How they met; what it is like to nurture a relationship while actively working as a sex worker; the ups and the downs.To learn more about Lucy Sweetkill, follow her on Instagram @lucy.sweetkill, or via her website: lucysweetkill.comwww.thedominakatarina.com/sw-survival-guideinstagram.com/swsurvivalguideSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How do you define modern monogamy? What does fidelity mean in the context of monogamy? How do you design a monogamous relationship so that both parties can thrive?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that monogamous relationships have to be one-size-fits-all. They celebrate those who are choosing to nurture one romantic relationship, take a meaningful look at our understanding of fidelity, and discuss how to identify what values lead to longer-term monogamous relationship satisfaction. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What is conscious uncoupling? How is it different from breaking up? How do you go through the process of uncoupling with intention and kindness? What if the other person does not want to go through this process, can you do it on your own?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that all relationship transitions end in shouting matches and slamming doors. They take a deep dive into conscious uncoupling and talk about what it takes to exit a relationship with dignity and respect. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are hanging out with the author of Plucked: A History of Hair Removal Prof. Rebecca Herzig to talk about hair removal and sexual self-esteem. They are curious about: What is the history of hair removal and what role have race, gender and age played in it?What caused the medicalization and then industrialization of hair removal and why?How does what we know about hair removal bust the myth of personal choice and individualism in America and expose how the unrecognized impact of conditioning play out in US society? To find out more about Prof. Rebecca Herzig:Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies Rebecca Herzig is the author or editor of several books, including Suffering for Science: Reason and Sacrifice in Modern America, The Nature of Difference: Sciences of Race in the United States from Jefferson to Genomics (with Evelynn Hammonds) and the series, Feminist Technosciences (with Banu Subramaniam). Herzig’s work has been funded by the National Science Foundation, the Ho

As a part of their sexual self-esteem kick, Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode from the archives where discuss erogenous zones, religion, and their impact on our sexual self-esteem with sexual empowerment coach Jocelyn Silva. Guiding us this week is Jocelyn Silva:Jocelyn Silva is a Sex and Intimacy Coach that works with women and femmes to break through their sexual shame and embrace their sex lives with confidence. With 10 years of experience as a sex educator, Jocelyn's favorite thing is teaching others about the beauty of sexual empowerment. As a queer Latina of immigrant parents, Jocelyn understands the level of shame that can be inflicted on a young girl and how that shame can bleed into adulthood. She is passionate about helping to end this cycle and uplift a new generation of sexually free badasses. She facilitates workshops, group coaching, and one on one coaching programs.You can find out more about Jocelyn on Instagram: @iamjocelynsilvaSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious

This week Effy and Jacqueline revisit an episode with Jessie Fresh all about aligning with your Erotic Blueprint to nurture your sexual self-esteem. They are curious about:  Why is pleasure important?What gets in the way of pleasure & fulfilling sex?How to increase sexual satisfaction?What are Erotic Blueprints and how do they affect our sexual self-esteem? Guiding us this week is Jessie Fresh:Jessie a certified Sex and Relationship Coach who helps women and couples create a deep, intimate connection so they can experience the mind-blowing sexual pleasure they so deeply crave. Using a unique technique to help her clients understand their deepest sexual desires, she coaches them to experience intimacy and closeness where there are no limits on time, space, and love. Jessie’s mission is to end the unnecessary suffering that too many people endure because of the shame and guilt they feel about sex. To find out more about Jessie Fresh on IG @JessieFreshSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fo

This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are curious about colorism, featurism, and texturism and they are joined by Dr. Donna to chat about:What are colorism, texturism, and featurism? Where does it come from? How does it show up day today?How does it impact sexual self-esteem?How does this impact relationships between people of color?What can we do now that we know this?To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Dr. Donna Oriowo:Dr. Donna Oriowo (oreo-whoa!) LICSW, CST, is international speaker and certified sex and relationship therapist in the Washington D.C. metro area. The owner of AnnodRight, Dr. Donna specializes in working with Black women on issues related to colorism and texturism and its impacts on mental and sexual health. She is the author of Cocoa Butter & Hair Grease: A Self Love Journey Through Hair and Skin. Dr. Donna is an advocate for sexual freedom, self-love, acceptance, and accomplishment for WoC, especially Black women. She collects inspiring quotes, eats donuts, loves