Authentically You-richard & Cheri Himmer

It seemed that no matter what Lori did, it didn’t work. Cheri reflects on her mother, father, and parents as a team.

What if…I can be happy, have a successful marriage, or get a good job? The self-perception rule is thinking, acting, and then feeling. It trumps depression, anxiety, and bridges the upstairs with the downstairs brains. As you repeat habits, you build a habitat that makes good decisions for you.

Setting a goal in insufficient for accomplishing the goal. Most of us are Mission Blind in life. Listen to Dr. Himmer’s experience of being Mission Blind in the first years of his marriage and riding the STP in 2000.

We go through a guided mindfulness experience and explain how to maximize your experience.

Supporting research on the effectiveness of mindfulness. Mindfulness is simply being yourself and knowing something about who that is. It is about coming to the realization that you are on a path whether you like it or not, and that path is your life.

Each day’s assignment is broken down. What to pay attention to, what thought to ponder with the goal of elevating your conversations and thoughts to a “great mind” level.

How to break feelings of depression, anxiety, and stress. The seven-day reboot is designed to provide emotional balance in your life. Learn to deliberately practice habits that will create a new habitat, one exercise at a time.

How cognitive distortions are used and a tip on how to use them to discover your false narratives. Learn how to watch the news, TV, or movies looking for cognitive distortions and use the process of naming them so you can tame them. Use the technique to avoid getting sucked into their biased reporting.

How do deal with loved ones who move from triggered to flooded during stressful times, such as the corona virus. Stories of clients working through challenges and some tools that help to navigate the stormy waters.

Imagine a drama queen and an engineer getting married. It’s like a bi-polar extravaganza. Today we discuss the importance of knowing yourself and approaching the light so your shadows are clearly visible.

Learning how to bridge to the 2nd half of life is critical to shadow work. Using a parable from Luke 15, we explore an inviting definition of repentance in the Parable of the Lost Sheep.

If no one cares about me, why should I care about them? How would you answer this?

Examples of how to practice keeping an Awareness Journal. The awareness leads to habits and growth.

What is the purpose behind journaling? Today we explore the four sentences in the Awareness Journal and the role it plays in moving from your 1st half of life container to the principles needed for a healthy 2nd half of life Foxhole.

Today we define specific maladaptive behavior and examples of how they play out in real life. Dr. Himmer challenges you to practice avoiding the Big 4 (criticism, sarcasm, relating, judging). The meaning of empathy and the challenge to understand without the drive to be understood.

Imagine a conversation with a new colleague where no unsolicited opinions, criticism, sarcasm, judging, or relating transpires. Since we are hardwired to connect, it is collusionary to criticize, judge, relate etc., yet we are normed to such maladaptive behavior.

In order to maximize one’s happiness, joy, and well-being, one must create an environment that is principle-based. Today we start the conversation on how to create Rules of Engagement

More in depth discussion on the difference between shadow and sin. Rigid organizations (church, family) often compromise the recognition of shadow because of an over focus on the sin and the sinner.

Our first half of life’s container was created by our parents. Our second half of life is self built based on principles that allow us to achieve our Conditions of Satisfaction. In this segment we define persona and the difference between shadow and sin.

There are three sequential principles that are important to implement change in one’s life. The first step is to establish or begin with your identity. How you see yourself based on your internal narrative. Step two is establishing a new habit through deliberate practice. Step 3 is an implementation statement.