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The Process of Self-Leadership ​ Episode 33 talks about the importance of focusing on self prior to publicly leading.

Remember the 2012 Atlantic article titled, "Why Women Can't Have it All" written by Anne Marie Slaughter? That article was read by more than 3 million women who somehow bought into the notion that women cannot have it all. Since then, there has been much hoopla about the topic with hundred of articles telling women why they can't have it all. Episode 32 of Ask Y Podcast by Dr. Yetunde challenges this very notion by asking, "Who says you can't have it all?"...according to who?

Episode 31 of Ask Y Podcast with Dr. Yetunde talks about learning how to identify different relationships and where to properly place people in your life. We misuse and loosely label people as friends when in fact they should be categorized differently. Episode 31 helps you to differentiate between associates, colleagues, confidants, friends and admirers. Everyone serves a different purpose in our lives and we should be careful not to expect the qualities of a friend from someone who may not have the capacity or intention to deliver on such expectations.

Ever look back at a terrible decision you've made and wonder, "What was I thinking?" Well, there's actually a chance you weren't thinking. Instead, you may have acting on emotion, not logic. In episode 30, Dr. Yetunde talks about how we tend to make wrong decisions in the midst of a "moment." She provides 4 ways that often cloud judgment and rational decision making. In order to create a habit of making sound and effective decisions, one must be able to balance logic and emotion. #askypodcast #dryetunde #selfhelp #puttingyourbestselfforward

You've probably heard the saying "Jack of all trades, master of none." It implies that by trying to learn many things, you give up mastery of any of them. However, I think that is a lie! Like Quora designer David Cole says, "You don't have to pick between being great at one thing or just mediocre at many things." Listen to episode 29 of ASK Y podcast to find out my reasons why I think the phrase Jack of all trades, master of none is bogus.

Episode 28 of ASK Y Podcast titled, Build Anyway is inspired by the Paradoxical Commandment developed by Dr. Kent Keith. Episode 28 encourages people to continue building, creating, giving, enjoying, forgiving anyway! No matter how many times people may knock you down, duplicate overnight what you have struggled years to create, destroy what you worked hard to build...continue building anyway. Because in the final analysis it is between you and God, it was never between you and them anyway. #build anyway # askypodcast #dryetunde #puttingyourbestselfforward

Episode 27 of ASK Y Podcast talks about stepping outside of your comfort zones.

What is your message to the world? What do people feel when they come in contact with you? What do they hear about you before meeting you? Everyday we communicate who we are to the world. In addition, we communicate what our individual message is to the world by something so simple as liking a post, sharing an article, posting a picture and by our daily activities. What is your message? How you live your life is your silent message to others, and it touches people in ways you’ll never even know. This comes across in your actions toward others, but also in how you approach your everyday life. Does how you're living your life communicate what you want the world to know about you or you struggling to find ways to present your most authentic self to the world? Listen to EP. 26 as Dr. Yetunde guides people on honing and finding their individual message to the world. You can listen to ASK Y Podcast on iTunes, Soundcloud and at www.dryetunde.com What you do and how you do it sets an example others will follow, wheth

"Is the glass half empty or half full?" is a common expression, used to indicate that a particular situation could be a cause for optimism (half full) or pessimism (half empty), episode 25 of ASK Y Podcast titled, "Glass Half Full" helps people to look at life in a more optimistic way. But just because you can always find lots of reasons for feeling down and becoming a bona fide pessimist doesn’t mean that you should. The fact is, optimism creates opportunity and pessimism kills it. Episode 25 provides great tips on how to become more optimistic in life. #glasshalffull #optimism #askypodcast #itunes #soundcloud #dryetunde #selfhelppodcast

Episode 24 of ASK Y Podcast titled, "Focus," talks about three essential points on how to complete a task or goal that seems to have lingered way too long. #dryetunde #askypodcast #focus #asky #podcast #selfhelp

Part 2 of Episode 23 Psychological Warfare features special guest, Yemisi Abiona who is a Psychotherapist with over 18 years of experience. Yemisi Abiona helps us to define, identify the signs, and how to overcome the effects of psychological warfare in the workplace, within friendships, marriages and all forms of relationships. She uses the most recent debacle that happened between Phadera, Kandi and Porsha as a prime example of psychological warfare between friends. Yemisi Abiona has her own private practice in Clark, NJ and treats ages 3 years old and up. If you like to contact her, ask her a question or inquire about her services, she can be reached at issconsulting13@gmail.com You can download this episode and entire podcast on Soundcloud, iTunes and www.yetundeodugbesan.com/podcast. #psychologicalwarfare #mentalhealth #ego #insecurity #bullying #toxicrelationshops #workplacehissues #badcoworkers #toxicbosses #realhousewivesofatlanta #phaderagate #askdryetunde #askypodcast

In Episode 23 of ASK Y Podcast, I talk about a topic that I have been meaning to discuss for quite sometime...Psychological Warfare! I have experienced it and I am sure many of you have as well but probably could not identify it or knew that there was an actual name for it. Ever feel the brunt of someone else's insecurity, have someone belittle, insult, question your "abilities" or try to make you feel less than...well that's Psychological Warfare whether intentional or unintentional. We have a special guest on this episode, Yemisi Abiona who is a Psychotherapist with over 18 years of experience. In the first part this 2 part episode she helps us to understand what psychological warfare is, what are its effect and why do people do it. In our next session she will give us advice on how to identify, how to overcome it and how to find a healthy way to protect ones mental and emotional state. #protectyourself #pyschologicalwarfate #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #insecurity #ego #askypodcast #askdryetunde #askyetunde

In our ASK Y Portal online, listener Monique asks, "How can I be more confident in the workplace and in general?" Episode 22 of ASK Y Podcast, will talk about five steps to boosting your confidence and five steps can also kill your confidence. First and foremost let's define what confidence is, confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities. It shouldn't be a surprise that being more confident at work and in life can mean more promotions and more benefits overall. However, a pilot study at the University of Melbourne found some correlation between confidence levels as early as primary school and success in the workplace as adults. This doesn't just apply to the workplace, either. Confidence is a necessary ingredient to success. In order to dream big, you have to first be confident in you abilities to achieve it and conscious of things that can also destroy it. Download ASK Y Podcast on iTunes, Soundcloud and www.yetundeodugbesan.com

In Episode 21 of Ask Y Podcast titled, "Friendship and Business: Can it Work?" I talk about famous founders who started off as friends and went on to build successful businesses (E.g., Apple, Spotify, Google, Microsoft, Proactiv, Juicy Couture, YouTube, and many more). However, If you’re considering your own friend-based startup, asking and answering certain kinds of questions is exactly what you should be doing first. I reference a Forbes titled, "5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Going Into Business With A Friend." This article provides you with 5 key questions you should reflect upon before jumping into a business or venture with a close friend or family member. They say, friendship built on business is better than business built on friendship. On thing that surprised me is the lack of women on the top ten most successful founders list who built companies with their friends. All the major founders are all males! I hope more women will be added to that list in the nearer future. Listen to this episode on i

The idea of mentoring is a common one, but the idea of a champion is rarely ever mentioned. There is a difference between having a mentor and a champion. As you start to climb up the professional ladder, its important to have a Champion. Champions are rare and often hard to come across. They are people who can make decisions that will directly impact your career. They make things happen. They advocate on your behalf when you are in or out of the room. They bring you to the table or influence those who are making decisions that may affect you. Mentors may give you time, advice and sometimes they are willing to make a few introductions. Don’t get me wrong, this is great, but what distinguishes a mentor and champion is that a champion is willing to take more of a RISK on you. In episode 20, I talk about the important of identifying a champion, knowing the difference between a mentor and champion and how you can be a champion in someone's life. Listen to ASK Y podcast on iTunes, Soundcloud and www.yetundeodugbes

If any female feels she needs anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency. —Bell Hooks "I am too intelligent, too demanding, and too resourceful for anyone to be able to take charge of me entirely," said Jasmine Beauvoir. In Episode 19 titled Channeling Your Inner Boss, I provide 5 tips on how get yourself together internally. Being a BOSS is not only about the title and being an entrepreneur, its about firs being a BOSS in your own life. Being the BOSS of your dreams, goals and purpose and having no explanations, external validations and reservations about who you are! Download ASK Y Podcast on iTunes, SoundCloud and www.yetundeodugbesan.com

Putting off the big things in your life until there is a better , more perfect time is actually dangerous. What happens if that time never comes? Or what happens if it did come and you couldn't recognize it because it did not appear with angelic wings and bright rays of light. "Now is not a good time," is often a common excuse of many. Time doesn't align itself for your goals, it happens whether you act or not. I live my life with the mantra that where you are in life, whatever stage you are in, whatever resources or lack there of that you have...is always an ideal time to make the most out of yourself. We waste so much time waiting for the perfect time to finally get that business running, finally settle down, finally have a family etc., without realizing the clock never waits to readjust or reorganize itself, it keeps ticking. Episode 18 talks about getting rid of the idea of "perfect timing" and finding the courage get to work on achieving your dreams and goals NOW.

Millennials, a generation of people often misunderstood. This massive generation filled with 18-34 years old are labelled repeatedly in articles, blogs, studies and in even casual conversations as entitled, self-absorbed, lazy and overly idealistic. Is this impression of millennials true? Possibly to a certain extent. In this episode, I talk about how millennials are the generation that refuse to put up with people, places, situations and things that do not contribute to their overall development and happiness. Businesses, politicians, employers and more don't know how to deal with young people who hold them accountable for their ridiculous behaviour. Of course you would be angry at a 20 something year old who is sharp as a button, probably created your favourite app, is willing to create an opportunity for themselves and isn't enticed by the corporate life...maybe just maybe the millennials can teach us more about pursuing your dreams unapologetically. Listen to this episode and all other ASK Y episodes on

Beware of predators. People who prey on potential, positivity, gentleness, beauty and take it for a sign of weakness. This episode is inspired by a quote written by Author C.Joybell C she writes, ...."Predators on anything that is happy and at peace they mistake for weakness. It's not your job to change these people, but it's your job to show them that your peace and gentleness do not equate to weakness..." The quote is much longer and it's titled, "Silk." Listen as I talk about predators and how to recognise them even if they come in the form on a family member, close friends, acquatainces, co-workers, helpers and others. #asky #askypodcast #predators #silk #protectyourself

I literally had an "aha" moment this past weekend. Why is it that whenever people talk about passion (which I am guilty of) the word career follows? I understand wholeheartedly why it's important to find a job or choose a career path that you love. Let's face it, when it boils down to workplace productivity those who are passionate about their work produce the best results. I also understand that we spend most of our time at work which is why a heavy emphasis is placed on choosing the right career path or creating a business/start-up that your passionate about. But, I realized this past weekend, thanks to The Creativity Suite, that we are misusing the word passion. Society has trained us to believe that passion is inextricably linked to career. Whereas passion is something that is powerful enough to cut across every area of your life. We've spent so much time trying to find the fire in our careers that have lost or never thought to experience passion in love, relationships, family and more. I've ditched the