Your Day And Your Life Unstuck With Sherry Essig

What makes the holiday season enjoyable for you? And what makes it stressful? Make a list of both and then decide what choices you can (and will) make to maximize enjoy and minimize stress. There’s no right way to do it, but there choices that are right for you.

Give the same attention to your words and actions that reality TV viewers give to their favorite characters and all sorts of information about how your choices, interactions, and attitude affect your outcomes begins to unfold. You’ll be amazed at the discoveries to be made when you start watching yourself throughout the day.

If you start and stop a bazillion things, or just as bad, you never even start what’s on your agenda – try the just one thing experiment. The simple act of starting each day with the question, “What’s the most important thing I can do today?”, can help you lower your stress, get your real priorities done, and make you feel happier overall.

Life is too short to stay stuck, to be unhappy, or to invest time in what won’t matter in the long run at the expense of what does matter. Here’s a life-is-short mini-manifesto-disguised-as-a-list

If you're going to reach for your dreams, you need stick-to-it-iveness. Whether it's a business or personal goal, giving up too quickly won't get you where you want to be. That's where resilience comes in.

Stuff happens all the time - good, yucky and mundane. However, that's not what creates your experience. Your perspective does. Your perspective is one of the few things in life that is 100% within your control. There's so much that's not, so embrace what is!

Practice moves you from where you are today to where you want to be. It provides learning and growth, builds skills, creates new habits, and cultivates resilience and strength. And that’s just a handful of its many benefits. Consistent practice creates extraordinary results. What practice doesn’t do is make perfect.

We make up assumptions and stories, and we do it all day long. And it’s easy to forget that assumptions aren’t facts. Next time you find yourself reacting to words, facial expressions, actions, or whatever it is that has you feeling mad, hurt, or worked up into a snit, take a deep breath and then go gather some actual facts.

It takes a minimum of three to six months to make a new behavior permanent. While that's not much time in an overall life, it can seem like forever when you want to change something now. That’s why it’s important to start with a small step you're confident you can achieve. And why it’s equally important to be patient!

Motivation is critical to success. And as nice as it would be to flip a switch and fire up your enthusiasm, it doesn't quite work that way. You need a compelling why; a reason powerful enough to propel you past inertia, fear, resistance or whatever it is that stands in your way.

Running a marathon changed Suzanne’s life. To quote her, “We can be who we imagine ourselves to be. So, we must be careful to allow ourselves to dream of the best, and then repeat it daily!"

Before you trade off today for tomorrow, consider all the outcomes and be sure you're willing to say, "Whether or not it works out as hoped, this is worth doing."

Your 911 and 411 networks help you stay unstuck. Your 911 friends are the people you call when something has gone sideways and you need help now. Your 411 folks are the ones you go to for information. Know which is which and, just as importantly, who you are a 911 and 411 friend to.

No matter what’s happening in your day, it’s not mutually exclusive with finding a moment of joy or a reason to laugh.

We all have one thing in common when it comes to achieving our goals. You will be both successful and happy when your goal is aligned with who you are and what you care about. This is why your goals need the five elements of HEART.

Words have an emotional impact. Choose wisely.

It’s easy to make happiness hard. And it’s unnecessary. Here are eight keys for living a happy life that as simple enough for a dog to do. Actually my dog lived them all and they’re equally applicable to us humans!

Chances are you have more on your to-do list than can possibly be done. Too much of anything will make you feel lousy, and a list of items that translates to 70 hours before 6 p.m. won't make you feel productive or good about your choices. You need a not-today list.

It’s actually riskier to play safe than it is to go for what you want. Ultimately, security comes from within you, not from external factors. Here are eight lessons I learned that helped me let go of worry so I could persevere in creating happiness and the life I want.

Too often when you're hanging onto your plans, working like crazy to make them happen, the real opportunity passes right by and you've missed something good - maybe even something incredible.