Eft/tapping Q & A Podcast W/ Gene Monterastelli - Emotional Freedom Techniques

In most areas of my life, I have found that taking some time to think about what I am trying to accomplish and my motivation sets me up for a better outcome. I am more present to the action I am taking. I am more attentive to what is and is not working. And I am much more likely to take the most effective actions because I'm clear about what I am trying. This is especially true with tapping. Without clarity on what you are trying to achieve with a round of tapping, it is easy to jump from issue to issue without ever completely clearing any one issue. It is also hard to gauge whether or not to continue tapping on an issue without a clear sense of your goal. Last weekend I led a mindset expansion day for a number of my students. We spent close to four hours tapping on those niggly internal limiting beliefs that hold us back from creating authentic lives that we love. To start the day, we did some tapping around the group's intentions for the day. It was a powerful round of tapping and it was the perfect set-up

A recent Harvard study found that 36% of the population of the United States, with some groups (such as young adults) experiencing a much higher prevalence of loneliness. Not only does the study point out that loneliness is becoming a serious issue, it also shows "the potentially steep costs of loneliness, including early mortality and a wide array of serious physical and emotional problems, including depression, anxiety, heart disease, substance abuse, and domestic abuse." I know that I have experienced more loneliness and disconnection in the last few years than at any other period in my life, and even post-pandemic it's a concern I work on with many of my clients. In this week's podcast I share a simple tap-along audio to help with the feeling of loneliness and disconnection. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podc

Recently, I was watching the behind-the-scenes documentary of Six Impossible Things. Six Impossible Things was a magic show created by one of the best close-up magicians alive today, Joshua Jay. In the documentary Joshua and his creative team not only reveal how the tricks are done, but they explain everything they did to create the show and make it a success. Near the end of the documentary Joshua shares the three phrases he reads to himself before every show to ensure he is ready. As a performer myself, I know how easy it is not to be fully present to a presentation that you have given hundreds or thousands of times. I liked the idea so much that I asked myself the question, "What do I want to remind myself of before each client call to ensure I am at my best for every client?" After playing with the idea for a number of weeks, I settled on four phrases that I say to myself before every client session. In this week's podcast I share those phrases with you, and how you can use them yourself, whether tapping

I recorded this podcast two weeks after returning from East Africa. Even two weeks after getting home, I was having a really hard time staying focused. My body was recovering from crossing seven time zones and the shock of adjusting from 97° F one day, to 7° F the next. My heart and mind were still recovering from the many stories of suffering and overcoming that suffering that we heard in schools, a prison, and refugee camps. Even if you haven't traveled from the other side of the world, you might not feel as present and grounded as you'd like. In this week's podcast I share with you a simple tap-along that will take you less than four minutes and will help you to be more present and grounded in this moment. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support   Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Scientific research is increasingly backing up what those of us in the space of transformation have known for decades: our emotional health impacts our physical health. On one level, this is very exciting. It offers us fresh ways to think about the healing process and frees us from only thinking about the body as a machine that sometimes breaks down. On another level, it brings a new level of complexity to the healing process. When we experience physical discomfort, is that because of a physical issue, an emotional issue…or both? These new options may make deciding on the best path to healing more difficult. In this week's podcast I explore how I think about both physical and emotional issues AND how to figure out where to start with your tapping. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

In September of 2007 I created Tapping Q and A with the express purpose of creating resources that would make it easier for people to get the most out of tapping. The tag line has been "Answers to the most common (and uncommon) questions about tapping, so that you can get the most out of each round of tapping." Recently, I have had a change of heart. I no longer want to help people just to tap more effectively. Instead, I want to help them to create lives they love by using tapping more effectively. That might not seem like a very big change. It might even appear to be no change at all. For me, the change is significant. In this week's podcast I explain what I mean by this shift in focus, and how I believe it will make tapping a more useful tool for you in practice. I would love to hear your thoughts on this idea in the comments below. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

For most people, the words thankful and grateful are interchangeable. But even though they are very similar, there is a small but significant difference between their definitions. I am not super concerned about whether you are using either word correctly, however I do think that there is an important distinction between thankful and grateful as it relates to our healing and transformation work. I was introduced to the distinction in one of my favorite podcasts Go Fact Yourself. Go Fact Yourself is a quiz show in which the first round is called Split The Difference where the contestants are asked to provide definitions of two words that are very close in meaning to illustrate their difference. In episode 114 the contestants were asked to split the difference between thankful and grateful. The correct answer was a revelation for me! In this week's podcast I share the difference between thankful and grateful, as well as how both of those fit into our transformational process. Support the podcast! Http://tapping

When we are tapping there is no such thing as the "right" or "best" words to use in our tapping phrases. There are words and phrases that are useful, and there are words and phrases that aren't useful. One set of phrases might work perfectly one day, but not so well the next. The words we use are often related directly to what is going on in our lives, what we are feeling in our body, or what issue we would like to clear. But it doesn't have to be that way. Sometimes the most useful words are written by someone else that we didn't even know we needed to tap on. Over the last few weeks I have been doing a little experimental tapping work in what I call The Tapping Lab. (You can read more about the lab here.) One of the experiments that I did was tapping to an English translation of the Tao Te Ching. In that process I came across a chapter that turned out to contain the perfect tapping phrases for me. In this week's podcast I share my experience of tapping with the Tao Te Ching, how you can do the same with thi

I am always open to feedback from my readers, even when it is critical. We are all notoriously bad eyewitnesses to our own experience, so this sort of feedback can be helpful in understanding how we are perceived by others. One piece of feedback that I have heard a number of times in the last few months is that I come across as very hard on myself. I think this is down to two reasons. First, in an effort to share my experience with you so that you can avoid some of the mistakes I have made, I tend to focus on my past struggles in my writings and recording. Second, I am probably hard on myself more often than I should be! In this week's podcast I explore the line between being overly self-critical and being honest with ourselves so that we can create meaningful change in our lives. I then do some tapping on the issue, which I think you too may find useful. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Mus

A few weeks ago I was lucky enough to be one of the speakers at the 2022 Energy Fest put on by Donna Eden and David Feinsten. I wasn't just lucky to be in the room, but also to have the opportunity to hear presentations from world-class speakers who are doing some of the most provocative healing work out there. One of those speakers was the transcendent Dr. Thema Bryant. I do not have the words to describe the force of nature that this woman is. Her presentation was worth the price of admission alone. At one point during Dr. Bryant's presentation, she asked the question "Do you want to be whole?" The audience quickly and enthusiastically screamed back "YES!" Dr. T paused, smiled a smile as radiant as one thousand suns, and asked "Are you sure?" She then proceeded to talk about what is required to be whole. The question then wasn't really "Do you want to be whole?", but instead "Are you willing to do the work that is required to be whole?" That is a much deeper (and harder) question to answer. I went directly

I am incredibly proud of the 24 Hours of Tapping and the fact that we raised over $31,000 for the Peaceful Heart Network. What you don't know is that a key reason why I ran the event is because I was running away from something else. That wasn't the only reason I ran the event. It wasn't the primary reason I ran the event. BUT it was a major factor in running the event. In this week's podcast I share with you what I was running from, why I was running, and the lessons I learned from finally facing my fears. I hope my struggle is instructive in helping you to identify and overcome when you are running away from something important in your own life. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

One of the biggest frustrations of the tapping process is the fact that it is a process. One-minute miracles do exist, but they are rare. Naturally, part of us would like transformation to happen immediately, while another part of us understands that healing is more often a process that takes time. When these two parts are in conflict, it can slow down your healing progress. In this week's podcast, I share how to manage this sort of internal discord so that you can smooth the way for more rapid and lasting healing. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

Recently I was working with a client who was struggling with her wish to communicate some hard truths with certain friends in her life. She felt stuck because she knew that her friends would not like what she wanted to share. On one hand, she knew what she needed to say AND at the exact same time, she did not want to be unkind. Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation where our desire to be authentic and our desire to be kind are in conflict. In this week's podcast we talk about (and tap for) finding a balance between being kind and being a doormat. Support the podcast: Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

In the last few months I have been giving a lot of thought to the nature of tapping and its applications. For the longest time I have thought of tapping as an approach to creating transformation. I am starting to change my mind about this. Instead of being a single approach, I begin to understand tapping as a tool that can accommodate multiple approaches that are dictated by the issue we are working on, the skill of the tapping practitioner, and whether we are working alone or with someone else. The first level of analysis involves developing my understanding of what the healing process looks like for a particular issue. Recently, I have been describing this with the help of an analogy involving motorcycle jumps and lily pads. In this week's podcast I talk about the difference between these two approaches and how they can make all the difference in the transformation that you can achieve with tapping. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Goo

Last weekend I did a one-hour livestream tap-along and took recommendations from the viewers as to which topics we should tap on. During that hour we tapped on: Giving ourselves permission to do self-care Feeling hesitant to make important decisions Perfectionism Getting our enthusiasm back Worry about upcoming changes that we don't control Fear of missing out Concern about negative self-talk taking over our emotions Fear of sharing your work with potential clients Letting go of anger and resentment Below you will find the recording of the live stream from YouTube as well as an mp3 version of the tap-along that you can download and take with you. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

One of the concepts from my NLP training that has stayed with me is the idea that we don't emotionally respond to how the world is, but instead to how we describe the world. An example I often use is of someone saying "Everyone at work hates me!" It is possible that everyone at work might hate the person making that claim, but it is unlikely to be everyone. BUT if that is how work is described, then the person saying this will walk into their office with their guard up, fearing every interaction with their co-workers. In this week's podcast we dive into the difference between need, desire, and preference, and how you can incorporate this understanding into your tapping practice to allow for more rapid personal transformation. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Android | Google Podcast | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio

One of the biggest struggles reported by tappers when tapping on their own is knowing where to start and what to say. When we sit down to tap, all we often know is that we don't feel great. In this week's podcast I share two phrases that you can use to start any tapping session to start you off on the right foot. When you use these two simple phrases one of two things happen next. Either the phrases will get you going and your intuition will take over and lead you to what you should tap on next OR you can keep using the phrases over and over again, leading you to the relief you are seeking. Even more important than these two phrases is the fundamental concept of healing on which they are based. I believe that this simple concept is one of the most important foundations of any kind of healing and personal transformation work. Listen to the podcast to hear more about this idea and how you can incorporate it into your tapping. Listen and learn! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in:

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One of the characteristics I most love about my clients is their capacity for compassion and their awareness of the suffering and struggles of others. Because this is the case, my clients are helpers and healers to others. And this is a wonderful thing! At the same time, when we are aware of the suffering of others, we have a tendency to shortchange our own transformation. We end up saying things like "I have it so much better than other people." But just because we are more fortunate than many others doesn't mean that we have to shortchange our transformation or feel selfish because we are taking care of ourselves. The reality is if you feel (consciously or subconsciously) you are being selfish by trying to heal, then you will sabotage any efforts to create healing and transformation in your life. In this week's podcast I am sharing a tap-along I did with one of the participants in the ID Transformation Retreat. During our follow-up sessions, a week after the retreat, one of the participants shared how selfi

Last Saturday I ran the *ID Transformation Retreat". Over the course of the day we had the opportunity to heal and release many past ideas and beliefs that we have about ourselves. As the day was drawing to a close, I gave everyone the chance to ask any lingering questions. Here is what one of the participants shared: I'm feeling a lot of emotions today. I feel like some of it is related to the tool about letting things go. I have recognized that I have all that I need within me to be the type of person I want to be. I feel like a lot of the emotions today were letting go of my old self. AND there's a lot of grief about that. All day long there have been so many emotions and I just wanted to ask about any advice you have for dealing with this outflow of emotion. My response was the tapping session I am sharing with you today. We tapped for letting go of our past selves, honoring who we were in the past, acknowledging the change we want, and accepting the change we are going through. The tapping was powerf