Last First Date Radio

Do you feel safe in your relationships? Most of us struggle with feelings of security and safety. Enter my guest, Jessica Baum, a licensed psychotherapist and author of SAFE—Coming Home to Yourself and Others and Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love. She explores the “Whys” of life: why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. She believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She’s the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, and she leads the Conscious Relationship Group, a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide. How early attachment patterns develop and how they can make us feel unsafe in our closest relationshipsHow to stop reenacting the core wound of abandonment in our adult relationshipsHow to start building “earned sec

In this episode, you'll learn five practical steps to develop secure attachment. Discover how to calm triggers, express needs, and choose healthier relationships.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Inst

How do you understand and gain control of your body and mental health during perimenopause and menopause? My podcast guest, Lauren A. Tetenbaum (AKA “The CounseLaur”) wrote the book on this topic. She is a millennial mother of two, a writer, a social worker specializing in supporting women through life transitions, and a former lawyer passionate about advocating for women. Through her counseling practice, Lauren helps empower postpartum and other women in corporate settings, provides clinical therapy to individuals and couples in New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, and Florida, and frequently speaks on podcasts and at events about topics like maternal mental health, gender equity, working parenthood, and women's reproductive health. Millennial Menopause is her first book.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:How menopause impacts women's mental healthHow women can reclaim sexual connection after menopauseWhat men should know about menopauseWhat women can do to advocate for themselves when it comes t

If you’re wondering how to attract a quality man after 50, you’re in the right place. Here are seven powerful traits quality men seek in a woman — and yes, you can embody them all without losing yourself.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Websi

How do you love without losing yourself? Tonya Lester, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer known for her work with relationships and communication. Her essay “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself” was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:• Why so many women have trouble asserting themselves in their relationships• Why it’s sometimes good to be “difficult" in your relationship• How perfectionism isn’t about excellence, it’s about anxiety• How to tell if we should keep pushing back or if it is time to leave a relationship• Why it’s important to stop saying, “But I shouldn’t have to tell him!”  Connect with Tonya LesterFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonya.lester.58/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapy/ LinkedIn: https://www.

A new buzzword has emerged in modern dating: hardballing. It’s the practice of being upfront early on about what you want—whether that’s marriage, a long-term relationship, or no-strings-attached casual fun. For many people, hardballing feels refreshing after years of unclear signals and endless guessing games. But it can also backfire if done without tact.Here are five tips to help you navigate the pros and cons of hardballing so you can decide if it’s right for you.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and

Tugce Balik believes that pleasure is essential to our wellness. She blends Western science with Eastern traditions to help people heal, reconnect, and feel at home in their bodies and with each other. She’s a certified Tibetan Tantra practitioner and an American Board-Certified Sexologist with a focus on healing through embodiment. Her approach is gentle, empowering, and rooted in deep care. To her, pleasure isn’t something you earn. It’s your birthright, your medicine, and her work at Arya helps couples remember exactly that.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:Why pleasure is moving from taboo to essential wellnessWhy 57% of couples can't talk about sex—and practical ways to bridge that divideHow intimacy impacts stress, hormones, and overall relationship satisfactionHow technology can help couples approach once-uncomfortable conversations Arya's Erotic Personas and how they can help partners understand each otherConnect with Tugce:Tugce IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamtugcebalik/ Arya IG: htt

Afraid of getting hurt again? If you’ve experienced heartbreak, it’s no wonder that opening your heart again can feel terrifying. Past breakups have a way of whispering, “Be careful. Don’t get hurt again.” Fear tries to protect us, but it can also keep us from the joy and connection we deeply crave. Here are five ways to begin to let go of the fear of getting hurt again so you can be open to the love you yearn for.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coachin

There are many hidden costs and gifts of trauma. That’s what we discussed on the podcast with Dr. Kirsten Viola Harrison, a trauma psychologist, author, and founder of Soul Wise Solutions. For over 35 years, she has guided individuals through profound psychological and spiritual transitions, including C-PTSD, schizophrenia, and near-death experiences. She is the co-author of “I, Sean/a: The Story of a Homeless Intersex Woman Who Inspired a Community”, the remarkable true story of Sean/a Smith, an intersex woman living with schizophrenia, whose life challenges stigma and who inspires a movement toward dignity, inclusion, and soul-deep healing.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:The hidden costs of traumaHope for those who are struggling with traumaHow to combine and emotional and spiritual aspects of traumaConnect with Dr. HarrisonWebsite: https://soulwisesolutions.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/soulwiseteam/ X: https://twitter.com/soulwiseteam IG: https://instagram.com/soulwiseteam ►Please subsc

In dating, it’s very important to recognize the difference between what we can control and what is beyond our influence. When you know where your power lies, you can focus on what really matters and let go of the rest. Here are six practical tips to reduce stress, build confidence, and create genuine connections in dating.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Sudd

Do you have emotional vampires in your life? Daniel Ratner is a relationship coach, speaker, and author helping people build healthier connections by recognizing draining patterns and setting stronger boundaries. A former entrepreneur turned personal growth expert, he is the author of Infinite Marriage and The Ten Secrets to a Passionate Marriage, with his upcoming book Emotional Vampires teaching readers how to protect their happiness from toxic people. Through his coaching, books, and public talks, Daniel provides clear, practical tools for improving self-esteem, cultivating “keepers,” and creating relationships that fuel joy.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:What is an “Emotional Vampire,” and how can someone tell if they have one in their life?Why so many of us tolerate draining relationships far longer than we shouldThe most common categories of Emotional VampiresHow to set boundaries without feeling guilty or burning bridges?Can Emotional Vampires change, or is it about learning how to manage the

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up with unavailable partners—people who can’t or won’t meet you where you are? It’s frustrating, even heartbreaking, when you know what you want, but keep choosing what doesn’t serve you.You can break this cycle. It begins with awareness, compassion, and a willingness to rewrite the old story. Here are five steps to help you stop dating unavailable partners and open yourself up to the love you deserve.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amz

Did you know that people-pleasing can ruin your relationships and your dates? Darshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps women reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power. Her work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & Goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:What makes her body of work, Erotic Wholeness, different from many people's ideas about sex, intimacy and relationship coachingHow people-pleasing shows up in intimate relationships, including in the dating process, and why it’s so problematicSome ways to unwind these patternsExamples of how clients have transformed from people pleasing in the bedroom to having authentic, satisfying sex livesHow to bring this topic into a conversation with your partnerConnect with DarshanaWebsite: darshanaavila.com  IG: instagram.com/darshana_

A dating funnel might not sound romantic, but it’s one of the smartest ways to date in today’s world. Instead of dating one person at a time and hoping they’re “it,” a dating funnel allows you to meet, talk to, and go out with a few people at once—so you can discover who’s truly right for you without investing time, energy, and emotions too quickly. Think of it like a sales funnel, but instead of closing a deal, you’re opening your heart to the right person. Here’s how to do it—step by step.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating http

Are you frustrated with dating apps? They can feel broken due to choice overload, which leads to shallow connections and difficulty committing. Ready for something that’s more intentional? My podcast guest, Ludovic Huraux is CEO of Amata, an AI matchmaking app designed for intentional daters. His first dating platform in Paris led to more than 2,000 weddings, and he later founded Shapr, a networking app that connected millions before its acquisition. He has dedicated his career to helping people build meaningful connections, both romantic and professional.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:Lessons from helping 2,000+ couples find lasting love, and what it taught him about real compatibilityWhy today’s dating apps feel broken, and how people can date more intentionallyHow to get AI to think like a human matchmaker, and what early insights from Amata reveal about modern datingThe future of dating, including where technology can help, and where it should step backConnect with LudovicLinkedIn: https://www.l

Humor can be one of the most attractive qualities in a partner, but on dating apps it’s tricky. Without tone, facial expressions, or body language, it’s easy to misinterpret a joke. Was that witty banter, harmless sarcasm—or a red flag in disguise? Here are five tips to help you make sense of humor on dating apps.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull

I loved this conversation so much, I'm bringing it back! Want to know the conversations that lead to deep connection? Susan Scott is a New York Times bestselling author and leadership development architect. For the past two decades, she has enabled top executives worldwide to engage in vibrant dialogue with each other, with their employees, and with their customers. In Fierce Love: Creating a Love That Lasts, One Conversation at a Time, and A Journal for Couples, Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations that lead to deep connection and lasting commitment. In this episode of Last First Date Radio: - Why it’s so hard for most couples to talk honestly to each other- Some of the 8 conversations every couple must have- Why unconditional love is so problematic in relationshipsconnect with Susan: https://susanscott.io►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find y

Waiting for him to ask you out? You met online. You’ve had a great first phone call, the conversation flowed easily, and you both agreed you’d like to meet in person. Now comes the tricky part—waiting for him to actually set up that first date. How long should you wait before following up? And what do you do if you don’t hear from him?I’m sharing five smart tips to help you navigate this stage without overthinking or losing your cool.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj

Patience is very important in dating, but it’s not always easy to stay calm and collected when you feel a strong connection with someone. Whether it’s waiting for them to text you back or ask you out again, or feeling like the relationship is moving too slowly, it can be challenging to keep your cool and trust that things will unfold naturally — without trying to control the outcome. In this solo episode, I’m sharing five ways to be more patient in dating.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last

If you’ve ever walked away from a date replaying every word you said, wondering if you should’ve done something differently—you’re not alone. Dating can bring up a lot of self-doubt, but second-guessing yourself only keeps you stuck.The truth? You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to trust yourself. Here’s how to stop overthinking and start dating with confidence.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you’re feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy’s books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoach