Curious Fox Podcast

When the world feels like it’s tearing itself apart, how can we keep our relationships together? When the news feels terrifying, how do we revel in the erotic safely? When meeting new people feels like a health risk, how can we nurture new connections? Effy and Jacqueline return from their Summer hiatus and kick off our Fall programming by talking about the impact of global current affairs, the hyper-fast news cycle of apocalyptic headlines, and the still restrictive new normal on our nervous system and consequently our relationships and sex lives.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What is it like to love the same person? What kind of relationship is available for those who share a partner? Do you have to know your lover's lover?Effy and Jackie revisit an old episode where a panel of poly folks discusses their experiences connecting with their lovers' lovers.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

From ancient civilizations to modern times, why have people been going to play parties? Are they only all about hedonistic indulgences? What happens at a play party?Effy and Jacqueline talk about their first experience at sex parties, why they go and what they have learned from their experiences, and how to throw your own party while discussing Effy’s book Play Party Etiquette.You can get the book from playpartyetiquette.com. You can find Polysecure on our website at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglistSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Do you think that there is a correlation between attachment style and one's propensity towards non-monogamy? How are our sex lives affected by our attachment styles?  How those in a non-monogamous relationship can work towards secure attachment?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert, and the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy to discuss attachment styles and trauma and how they impact our relationship structures and sexuality. You can find Jessica Fern via her website: jessicafern.com. On there, you can access her webinars and join her newsletter so that you get updates about her work and a notification of when her practice opens up to new clients.  You can find Polysecure on our website at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglistSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listenin

Why is it that when we feel comfy and settled, we suddenly long for passion and freedom? And conversely, why do a string of spontaneous adventures have us longing for stability? Is it possible for us to be both planted and to fly? Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion but not before they catch up on crushes, books, family, and city life vs country. You can find the Fuel Gauge Activity worksheet mentioned in this episode here: https://craftyourpath.org/cyp-worksheets/day-1Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why do some asexual folks have sex? In a hypersexualized society, what is it like to be asexual? Can asexuality be an important factor for female sexual liberation?  Effy and Jacqueline are joined by journalist, editor, and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, Angela Chen to talk about the asexuality spectrum,  its role in identity politics, and why her book is important all sexual orientations to understand the role of sexuality in society. To learn more about Angela Chen, follow her on Twitter @chengela, on Instagram at @angelaetcetera, or via her website: angelachen.org. You can find her book along with other recommended reads at wearecuriousfoxes.com/readinglistSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

We are planning a listeners' questions episode in the coming weeks. We'd LOVE to hear from you. You can submit your questions in three ways: Old school - you can email us at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com High tech - send us an audio message at listening@wearecuriousfoxes.com Radio tech - call us and leave us a voice message at 201-870-0063Note that if you submit your question by audio, we’ll likely include it in the episode. If for some reason you don’t want us to, then make sure you start your message with DON’T INCLUDE MY VOICE. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How do you imagine a family that you have never seen before? How do you make it work? What is the difference between complexity and drama? Effy and Jacquline are joined by Queers Next Door's Leigh Montavon to talk about managing the complexities of a family by design, bringing up children in a non-traditional family, and what it takes to make it all work. Effy takes her turn on the Soap Box to officially renounce ethical non-monogamy for good. To learn more about Leigh, follow her on social media @sexcoachleigh, on her website at sexcoachleigh.com, and check out her handmade zine about sex, self-care, & relationships at queerlovezine.smvi.co. You can also tune into her podcast - Queers Next Door - wherever you listen to podcasts and find them on IG at @queersnextdoor.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCurio

The Curious Fox team has intentions of doing a new series we're calling Fox Tales, where we share stories of curiosity, struggle, and thriving. We would love to hear from folks who are willing to share their stories. Specifically, if you are dating a sex workerif you have a working relationship with a sex workerif you've come out later in lifeif you want to explore and talk about your race and ethnicity as a relates to consensual nonmonogamyif you're in a triad or a thruple, with all parties in the relationship being with each other; We want to hear from you!Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Is there a difference between queer dating and mono-normative dating? What are the main concerns and common strategies? What is one thing that we can all do to be braver in our dating lives?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur to talk about how to approach dating intentionally, navigate queer space when dating and remain connected to "feelings-based standards."  To learn more about Ariella, follow her on social media @queerdatingcoach, or on her website: queerdatingcoach.comSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

How prevalent is bisexuality? What is it like to be attracted to all genders? Why don't see more representation of bisexual folks? Effy and Jacqueline continue to celebrate Pride month by talking about bisexuality, bi-visibility, and the erasure of bisexual identity. They bust some myths and share some action points for how to be inclusive, not intrusive. If you like the song at the top of the show, follow @sillymissallison on TikTokSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What happens when you discover your sexual orientation later in life? What does it mean to be queer? Is Pride still relevant? Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring experiences of coming out later in life, discuss what it means to be queer and how they each identify when it comes to their sexual orientation. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Are we overuse words like codependency, trigger...etc? What does codependency look like and how can you move towards interdependency in your relationships? Effy and Jacqueline start a conversation about codependency and discuss how it may show up as you explore non-monogamy. They discuss the difference between attachment styles and codependency and talk through what it means to be dependent.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

People change. Relationships change. How can you navigate through those changes in a way that honors everyone involved? How can you and your partner(s) create an environment that supports evolution and growth? From monogamous to open, a couple to a triad, a partner to solo poly, to conscious uncoupling - what can you learn from other people’s experiences around transition? Effy and Jacqueline revisit the first-ever Curious Fox episode to explore relationship transitions through the experiences of a brave and diverse set of panelists.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Why is money so hard to talk about? How do finances impact non-traditional relationships? What are some of the creative ways to approach finances that reflects your relationships design? Effy and Jacqueline delve into the tough topic of money and money conversations within relationships.  They share how they have set up their finanes and give suggestions on different ways of thinking about money and easing into regular money dates. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What would it take to have shorter arguments? Can relationship bliss be as easy as being able to name your emotions? Why do we have to work so hard for our relationships? Effy and Jackie are joined by Dr. Thomas Whitfield to understand more about Emotionally Focused Therapy and how it can help folks relate better, shorten arguments and provide insight into ourselves and each other. To learn more about Thomas, follow him on social media @twhitfieldphd, visit his website: madisonparkpsych.com/thomas-whitfield-phd, and check out The Obsessables, wherever you listen to podcasts.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Do we stay in relationships longer in our older age because we think we won't find a new partner later on in life? What would online dating look like if age wasn't a part of the profile? When we "eeeew" older people having sex, do we realize we are "eeewing" our future selves?Effy and Jacqueline are joined by author, speaker, and ageism activist Ashton Applewhite to discuss the intersection of age, ageism, relationships, and sex. Effy and Jackie have also come to realize that they'll never be too old to giggle at the fact that this is the 69th episode.  To find out more about Ashton and her work, follow @ThisChairRocks on IG and FB and on her website ThisChairRocks.com.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

What is Relationships Anarchy? Can it be a sustaining and nurturing relationship structure that one can thrive in? Is there anything we can learn from this niche structure? Effy and Jacqueline revisit the most popular CF episode of all time where a panel of relationship anarchists share their stories and talk about their approach to relationships. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Do you need a break from the heaviness of our last few episodes? Do you want to skip your next zoom meeting and talk about butt plugs and pickup lines instead? Do you need a new outlet to get some joy because the status quo isn’t cutting it?Effy and Jacqueline stick to their word and in this light hearted episode explore butt plugs and talk about pick up lines on online dating platforms. They round off the episode by redefining joy. Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes

Can your faith in the bible support your sexual expression? Is there scripture that encourages sexual exploration? Are we all going to hell because we like to give and get head? On this Easter special, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson as they embark on an Easter egg hunt to find passages and scriptures in the Bible that talk about sex not as a literally device for high drama or a word of warning but as beautiful, sensual expression and connection for the pleasure of it (marriage not required). To find more about De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson follow her on Instagram @sankofasex and check out her website sankofasextherapy.com.Support the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us or send a voice memo: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comJoin the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes