Authentically You-richard & Cheri Himmer

This segment attempts to clarify the difference between personality and behavior. Personality is static while behavior is fluid and amendable. You don’t teach an introvert to become an introvert, instead you teach the principles and skills associated with community and how to deal with large gatherings of humans.

For my Christian cousins, I take neuroscience and psychology and apply a figurative overlay to the Fall of Adam.

A key component to healing is the ability to find neutral space and address one’s false narratives.

Starting with attending Addiction Recovery classes to becoming Dr. H’s client, Ruth showed amazing grit and discovered the power of changing One Thing.

Our long-time friend Ruth Taylor was tragically killed just before the taping of this segment. Today we honor her life with powerful principles of healing.

Taking the most recent research from Dr. Sara Gottfried’s new book “Brain Body Diet”, Ruth Taylor visits Dr. Himmer and discusses how to reduce anxiety.

We revisit Lando and Xenus through the lens of communication blind spots. As Dr. Siegle says, “If you can name it you can tame it.” This episode is filled with naming maladaptive and adaptive behavior.

Dr. Wayne Diamond’s sage advice on how to effectively communicate. A comforting meaning of love from the documentary “In Utero".

Ralph and Gertie struggle to communicate because they each have to be right. Even the simplest task of getting to and from church creates a fight.

Jack’s story of living in familiar space and experiencing the challenge of moving from target as a child to victim as an adult is moving. Jack brings hope to those who no longer wish to be victims.

Jack’s story is an example of maladaptive parents who created an environment of behavioral destruction. Jack’s story is one of healing and hope. He also shares how he is giving back by providing a community for others who want to escape the gravity of addiction.

Our false narratives, such as “I have no worth” or “It’s my fault” start as early as in the womb. During life we compound our narratives and behave according to our perceived beliefs about ourselves.

Our learning in life begins at conception. Our false narratives also start at conception. These false narratives drive behavior. In this podcast we talk about Dr. Gabor Mate’s experience as a 1-month old child in Budapest, Hungary in January 1944 as Hitler and the Nazi’s marched into his city

TJ Hoisington joins me today to discuss an argument we had some months ago on the semantics of these two words. What appeared to be a disagreement, was in fact a shared belief in the principle of using the subconscious to empower oneself

Citing a story from Dr. John Lund’s youth, we get a good laugh how people expect others to read their minds. This is arguably more of a female challenge, however, the root cause remains the same, one’s inability to bring clarity into their space. TJ Hoisington walked in and joined our conversation

Going back over 37 years we recall how we dated and my list of Conditions for a happy marriage. Each date was designed to determine if Cheri and I could have sufficient trust and respect to move to the next date. Since each date confirmed that we did trust and respect each other, we got married

Asymmetrical relationships are when one person is more committed than the other. Imbalances occur which impacts the depth and length of the relationship. Today we address possible causes for the reduction in committed relationships and the apparent inability to create lasting friendships, including marriage.

Seagull was the code name for a foreign national that the FBI had targeted as a potential source to sensitive material about his country. In other words, they wanted Seagull to spy on his mother country. Over the years, the FBI (Friendly Bureau of Investigation) has developed a four-step approach to building trust with prisoners and foreign nationals. What if this could work for you?

Why do some people live longer than others? Today we share the research out of BYU that explains the importance of connecting with others. Learning to develop friendships and establish community is a life or death skill. The natural drive to connect is often hampered by dysfunctional behavior, which, as research shows, shortens one’s life.

Terry’s marriage was a disaster as he found his wife in bed with his best friend. His rebound girl friend was a rescuer and gave her all until he was fixed and married to him. Terry, no longer needing to be rescued, was a turn off to his new wife and she distanced herself from Terry, which turned him into his father (persecutor). Terry’s wife, in search of someone to rescue got into some bad company and was raped by those she was trying to rescue